I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 months now. HE was the sweetest person ever, until he started to hang out late. Smoke like more. He lost his job! And expects me to be cool with everything. He's not making any kind of effort to do anything. He doesn't think before he reacts to something. That's why he's in the predicument he's in now.JAIL!!!!!!!!!! Should i give a chance?
2006-07-26 09:28:52 · 33 answers · asked by person30274 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah keep waiting for him, so that when he gets out, you can still be there when he gets arrested again and goes to jail again, or even to prison!
2006-08-03 05:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
So why do you want to be with someone who obvisously doesn't give a damn about the realtionship? If it was me I would be kicking him to the curb. He is not worth going through all that drama for. If he reacts to things irrationally then who's to say that he won't snap on you and put his hands on you? That is not a chance that iwould want to take. There are plenty of better men out there who know how to take care of home and thier woman! Get with someone that atleast has a job and is independent....your man is not worth the time or the effort. Dump him, pronto!
2006-07-26 09:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by Cute Is What I Aim For 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what your heart tells u to do. If you feel that u will be in a better position by leaving him alone than do that sometimes u in life u have to look out for yourself. You can and might always love him but remember you can love someone and not be to gather also I don't think he thought about you when he was doing the things he was doing to end up in jail now that he is there I bet he thinks about you all the time and when he gets out the cycle will continue
2006-07-26 09:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by shariecollins2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer. No. You deserve better. There are PLENTY of guys out there. Why do women think they can't do any better and have to settle? You need to find your pedastal guy, the guy who puts you on a pedastal. He might not be the one you end up with, but he sure is fun to date and he's great for your ego. You need the pedastal guy. Look for him. Don't wait for the loser guy in jail. He ruined his chances with you when he didn't make any efforts to do anything anymore and expected you to be cool with everything. Find someone else.
2006-07-26 09:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sweetest person ever just does not come along every day....
Sounds to me you care very much about this guy but wonder if he is worth you putting in the effort to helping him become a more mature adult. Maybe you are just to grown-up for his childishness. It is really not for anyone to tell you what to do. It is your choice to put in the work on him or to move on and hope one day you are able to say again...You are with the sweetest person ever.
2006-07-26 09:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by bill45310252 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first thought is no. In the long term, when you are thinking about whether or not you can support each financially, how about having a family, your going to need someone you can trust with anything, someone shrugs their responsibilities to an extreme to the point of losing there job, ending up in jail, isn't going to be what you need in the long run. Think about if you guys had been dating for a longer period of time, lets say you were living together, if he ends up in jail, loses his job, can you support the rent, living expenses, etc on your own? Personally, I couldn't trust someone like that but thats me, you need to think what best for you because in the long run, you are what matter most.
2006-07-26 09:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by Queen_Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't & don't see a future w/ him leave him you've only been w/ him 3 months not a very long time, why waste your time? My sis was w/ a guy that was in & out of jail she left him because he had said that the first time would be the last time he would go to jail he didn't want to go there again, but we just found out that he just went in again. So why bother sticking around?
2006-07-26 09:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by roxy10 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope this guides will help you. don't give him chance just because you think he is HOT, or simply because you love him, remember, love blind people, physically and psychologically.
3 steps to do
1. identify his problem (please don't miss anything if possible) the cause of his misconduct 'things happen for a reason'
2. Explain to him what you expect him to be, offer help, listen to his explanation, don't argue, try to compare and contrast his reason to his act. use logical thinking (quietly) don't voice it out to him straight away (a lot of woman have this problem).
3. Act.( final decision) if he act to improve, be with him if its not. Kick him out from your life. if you cant face him, write him a letter, tell all the reason, point it out one by one.
Please, when you want to engage with this step, make sure your brain is quicker than your mouth. Think before you act.
Sorry, I hope this will help you,
2006-07-26 09:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by acu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, don't stay with him at least for now. Being a guy I would know. If you were to stay with him then he is going to do the same stuff he is doing now. But... if you were to leave him then he would change to your liking if he cared about you, if he were to still keep messing up like he is now, then he doesn't care for you anymore. Trust me it works that always gives you the answer. Every guy falls for it because we don't have patience and women are usually our number one priority.
2006-07-26 09:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by brian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. He is in a pattern that will drag you down with him. It will not get better, only worse. If he reacts without thinking he is not only NOT considering the consequences, he is NOT thinking of you and your best intrest either. Keep your SELF RESPECT and get away from him.
2006-07-26 09:39:15 · answer #10 · answered by BRENDA S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO leave him. The first few months ppl are on their best behavior. Time shows their true colors. His need some work on his. Time would just make it harder to leave. If he is going to change give him time to change with out you.
2006-07-26 09:33:23 · answer #11 · answered by singleandsouthern 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋