I am 42, my partner is 40. She has never been married or had children. She has now said that all she has ever wanted is the traditional, meet someone, engagement, marriage and children.
Are we too old to start a family?
2006-07-26 09:22:49 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No! Go for it! People are having families at much later ages these days. (I know many who have had children in their early 40's) Good luck :O)
2006-07-26 09:23:58 · answer #1 · answered by mom1025 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first at 26, re-married, then my second at 39, I am 42 in December with my third due in 5 weeks. My wife is almost 2 years younger than me so her second will be when she is 40.
It is too late in some ways, won't see much of grandchildren I guess, but I am a fit 41 year old, and am loving having a toddler around again. It is actually easier this time around.
Go for it I say.
2006-07-26 09:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by spiegy2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with this at all. Women can conceive naturally until menopause (av age 50yrs). Your partner has probably not reached this stage of life yet so you have a few years to have a try! (Men are able to produce viable sperm into their 70's)
Is this what you also want? If so, go for it, have loads of fun trying and if it happens it will be an amazing thing.........if it doesn't it wasn't meant to be and you had fun and got to know each other better along the way.
Pregnancy and conception in older women can be a bit 'harder'
but this does not mean it is wrong, just look after yourselves well. If it is what you both want then good luck!!
2006-07-26 09:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by Kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not. I am 23 and my parents have a 3yr old little boy. My mom was 44 and my dad 45. It is a little strange thinking about how old they will be when he is in college and usually people believe that he is mine and they are the grandparents. However, people live longer now and start lives much later.
You are only as old as you believe yourself to be. Children make you feel young and alive. I would give it a try. Its a little hard on the woman because of her age. She will have to be closedly monitored because women after 40 have a higher risk for gestational high blood pressure and diabetes and increase risk of developmental problems with the baby but the doctor can monitor this easily. Go for it!!
2006-07-26 09:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by pirategurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, It's not too old.Like everything else it's got it's pros and cons.You should be more financially stable than someone younger but your also going to be older parents doing schools things with other younger parents who might mistake you for a grandparent.Kids take alot of energy.Mine are almost adults,I am not sure if I would have the strength to do it all again at the age you are at now after knowing how much work it really is.It really is your personal decision. Good Luck!
2006-07-26 09:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have friends your age that just had a baby. I wouldn't have more than one. Think how old you'll be when you child turns 20. Wow. Remember this the older a woman is the more complication there could be during pregnancy. It could all turn out good though. Just be sure she starts seeing a OBGYN you know the gynecologist when you start to try. So she can be put on the proper vitamins. So you can have a healthy baby.
2006-07-26 09:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it. But being that your partner is over 40 she could be at higher risk of having miscarriages, having a baby with down syndrome or other mental illnesses. But if she is in good shape and leads a healthy life, then she will have very few complications during her pregnancy, so just have her check with a doctor.
Good Luck!
2006-07-26 09:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by Cute Is What I Aim For 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not to old but children are for life and as you wife /girlfriend has never had children she must be honest and tell you she is prepared to give up the freedom she has enjoyed the past 22 years and be commited to you and the future off spring - being a parent is great but time consuming - I am 53 with a 10year old daughter - enjoy each and every moment even the bad ones and remember you brought that child into your life and therfore you must provide in many ways for that child - good luck
2006-07-26 11:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not too old. And if it is something you both want, then you will never regret it. People who start having children later in life generally make better parents as they have more patience and a much higher level of maturity. Also, they have had time to attain many of their personal goals and will never wonder "what if I never had kids".
2006-07-26 09:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend is 42 and pregnant (already have a 16 & 18 year old)..its DEFINETLY not for me because I feel she is birthing her caregiver, but your woman has never had any children and wants one. I say she needs to do it right away if this is what she really wants.
2006-07-26 09:26:46 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be more difficult as she is quite old and if she did become pregnant there is a higher chance of downs etc.
Instead of leaving it to luck at this age I would go for fertility treatment & say you've been trying for 3 years the more help you can get the more likely she is to get pregnant
2006-07-26 09:28:28 · answer #11 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋