Opposite sex friends can sometimes cause problems in relationships. They interfere with the dynamic of the couple. What do you all think about this topic. Please honest answers only!!!! Do not say what you think sounds good. I am looking for honest feedback, good and bad.
2006-07-26 09:10:45 · 27 answers · asked by Mimi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men and women can't be friends, one always wants to have sex.If only to ruin your relationship.
2006-07-26 09:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by ronchoward 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay you want honest I have got it I have been in a relationship for a long time new and opposite sex friends were a problem then and I thought maybe the relationship was just new and the trust hadn't been built yet so I let some of my guy friends go. But months went on and he slowly realized that some guy friend that I hadn't let go of were no harm. He is still uncomfortable with new guy friends and will make comments about someones I have had for ever still, so it never really goes away but it becomes a easier situation.
Don't take this as it was just him either i had the same issue with his girl friends and sometimes it still does get to me. But its only because we both care!
2006-07-26 09:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by DixieDarlin939 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a girlfriend who has a friend who's a guy. And i'm ok with it, most of the time. I know that he has liked her for for a while. He's a bigger guy, and I'm not really worried about competetion from him, because, frankly, when she says she's not sexually attracted to him, I really believe her. But there are times, because she is so nice, that he takes advantage of the situation. Maybe one hug too much, or too much personal chit chat. I'm at a point in my life, that if something is going to happen, i'll find out, and if she wants to ruin our relationship over him, fine. There are plenty of other woman out there. But when it gets to be a little too overwhelming, I usually in a nice tone, tell her to knock it off, because it bothers me. And she usually does. So it really depends on many factors: How much you trust your mate, the attractiveness or the opposite sex friend, the character of both, and what you as a person can tolerate.
2006-07-26 09:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it highly depends on the couple. My boyfriend and I (both of us are 33 and have a child together) have friends of the opposite sex whom we will go out and have a casual meal with. We do not have any trust issues with one another and we've all gone and done things together. We had these friends before we were involved with one another and we agreed that unless there was a specific incident (like one of them confessed "deeper feelings" or just blatantly hit on one of us) then there was no reason to dismiss their friendship. Granted, we both have had a couple of friends that we no longer feel comfortable around and limit the visitations to when we can all go together but this has nothing to do with our trust for one another. If you have positive communication with each other and you both trust one another, then there shouldn't be an issue.
2006-07-26 09:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both parties are secure in the relationship,and there was no problem for you to meet the opposite sex friend then everything should be ok. If he/she becomes defensive about this friend, or a little hostile then possibly this "friend" is more than just a friend.
2006-07-26 09:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by jackey m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you deeply value your current realtionship...drop the other opposite-sex friends. A very general friendship should not cause problems, but if there is daily contact and deep conversations with this other person there is no way it can not cause problems in building the right relationship with the ONE you want!
2006-07-26 09:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by Reo Jordan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have opposite sex friends and so does my boyfriend. The only time it becomes a problem is not making you partner # 1 in the relationship or you have a jealousy problem. In that case you need to get rid of him/her for being immature.
2006-07-26 09:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by webwench2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shouldn't cause problems if you're true to your relationship and only friends. Now if your partner's jealous, that's a serious problem that needs to be addressed immediately.
I'll go off on a tangent here. Jealousy is caused by insecurity. Insecurity is to a relationship as cancer is to death; it's a very bad thing to havei n your relationship, but can be overcome.
2006-07-26 09:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, most people CAN handle opposite sex friends nowadays. But if you or your friends are the sort of people who are more comfortable with same-sex friends, sure that's going to spell trouble.
So it really depends on your personality and world view. As long as you're not attracted to each other, there shouldn't be any difficulties.
2006-07-26 09:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by anzw3rz0r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get along better with guys than gals, although I have several close female friends. I am in a great relationship, and my guy friends cause no tension. My bf trusts me, and I trust him with his female friends. It helps that we have a lot of mutual friends from college.
As long as there is a defined boundary between friend and more than a friend, it shouldn't be a problem!
2006-07-26 09:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by agentm006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well usually one of the opposite sex friends will come to like u but if thats not the case it is fine to have a guy friend (or girl if ur a boy) i dont think they would interfere with the personal realationship
2006-07-26 09:14:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋