i get to the point when he acts up,that i get confused of how i feel,we have 2 kids,age 1 and 4,and we have not been intimate in a month now,i dont wanna be touched hugged or kissed,when he wants too,just when i do,i was in a bad marriage for 14 years,and i dont know why i am like this now,i just cant stand his immaturatity and he raises his voice alot,i want happiness,not a floor of eggshells i feel im walking on again,i worry about him when he is hurt or sick,but i dont know if i have love there...help
2006-07-26 09:06:27 · 12 answers · asked by TAM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know how u feel.Do u think u suffer from post-pardum?My son is almos 3 and i had the same feelings for my husband.We did not have intercourse for along long time.But i really love him.So I went to the doc. and he fixed me right up.And my husband and I are working things out...............All the best Honey.
2006-07-26 09:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes the downside of being with a guy, really stinks doesn't it? The fact is you should never have to feel like you are walking on eggshells to please someone else and that environment will eventually kill any love that once existed. Sounds to me like you are pretty much done with this guy and it may be time to move on. I know that feeling and its an awful one. I am in another relationship now and many days I wonder what on earth I was thinking, when I was single I never felt that way, my day was never ruined just because someone else was in a bad mood, my life was peaceful, never an argument with anyone, sure stuff still happened and things went wrong and sometimes dealing with them alone was a little scary but I think the peace was worth it. I guess I was single for so long that I forgot how bad it can feel. I think I am a person who is much happier not being in a relationship, maybe you are too. Good luck, I hope you find the answers that are right for you!
2006-07-26 16:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After being in 1 bad marriage you should know what you want from a partner and what makes you happy. Sounds like your not happy. You obviously do not love him anymore. Move on do not waste another 14 years of unhappiness. you deserve better and remember those little kids do as they see. Remember what you are showing and teaching them. They will see that it is okay to be unhappy and that love and affection are not normal.
Your happiness is number one. You can not make anyone else happy if you are not happy. Good luck to you. Hold your head high and love those kids a lot!!!
2006-07-26 16:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by lookingforanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, you're going through some tough time right now. either have a good talk or see a counselor if he worth the effort. ask him what with all the negativities. you need this, you need this confrontation. see what's going on. and if the reason makes no sense, then you have the right to move on. if seperation that you need to do to find out if you have the feeling for him still, then make it so. don't play the victom's roll , take charge of your life.
2006-07-26 16:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can still care about someone but that doesn't mean that they still love that person. His whole demeanor is killing the love you have for him. It's getting to the point where you can't stand to have him touch you. I'd say the love is going out if not all is completely gone. Sometimes when the love is gone, it's gone for good, they can kill everything you ever felt for them.
2006-07-26 16:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Confused: They say that the divorce rate for a second marriage is even higher than a first marriage. I guess we figure out that its pretty easy to do. Give it a chance...don't be so anxious to throw it away. You do have kids and their happiness and future depends on your decision.
2006-07-26 17:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first go see a counselor. I'd try to take him along but if he doesn't go then go alone. Its never OK to feel like that in a relationship.
You have to do what's best for your two children and yourself. If he needs to grow up then tell him. This might not affect your children yet but when they get older it might.
Seek out a therapist- now!
2006-07-26 16:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with collen. I too had post-pardum for a year and a half, and we tried counseling. but i just didn't like him...he annoyed me so i left. then i went to see a doctor and they told me i had post pardom after talking and some tests. they gave me a prescription and i felt much better within a week or two. don't be scared to ask for help we all need it from time to time. i'll keep you in my prayers. :)
2006-07-26 16:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I''m sorry to hear that and it isn't the first time I have heard that. I have more to tell but I'll tell you later.
You should probably get counseling if that's what you want. I know your husband has a mental disability. Do you think that is the problem?
2006-07-26 16:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by madbaldscotsman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter how hard things get dont give up talk to him that is what marriage is all about hes never gonna kno intil u tell him how u feel about his actons maybe things will get better dont give up on him just yet . go to all the options u can.talk to him go see some one conseulor do what ever it takes dont give up! it will get better if he really cares about u i think u do love him.
2006-07-26 21:50:25 · answer #10 · answered by kaila g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋