in20 days from now im moving and i dont know how to tell a guy i really like that im gonin to have to break up wit him b/c long distance relations dont work wit me
2006-07-26 09:00:34 · 30 answers · asked by babie_gurl1006 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be HONEST up front with him. True, long distance relationships DON'T work. Being friends is fine and will last as long as it lasts. It's the way it has to be.
2006-07-26 09:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by a1quick57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you love him or are you dating only? does he love you? you both sure of it? if you just feel "in sex," or "like" him and visa versa, it is so easy to tell him that a long distance relationship is not going to have a chance of lasting. he probably will agree with you.
if you two are really in love, then tell him the truth and that you want to see if you both still feel that way after a few months at your new abode.
he can always move to where you are once you put the "love" relationship to test.
unfortunately for us, a man usually has a better chance of landing a good job in another locale than a woman does.
btw: i am not too fond of the pat answers above, particularly from women. too many men simply up and leave us and don't say why, they think that you just know why. isn't that lousy, particularly when you have shared a bed? to me, if you have been intimate, you owe your lover a full and truthful explanation. even if there are tears, at least you will be able to face yourself in the mirror the next day knowing you did what is right.
2006-07-26 09:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by Louiegirl_Chicago 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him in exactly those words: "I'm moving and long distance relationships do not work for me." If he is a decent guy, he will respect it and if he is not a decent guy, he will act oddly and you will know that he wasn't the right guy. Note: If he is a really decent guy and is the "right one," perhaps he will move, too. May God bless and keep you.
2006-07-26 09:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by blowry007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be upfront about it. Otherwise it makes you look like a jerk. Just sit him down and tell him that you care about him but that long distance just doesnt work, and that you hope you two can still be friends. He may have seen in coming already. Stop being a wimp and do it!
2006-07-26 09:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by kari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him, you've got nothing to lose, except maybe him. Suggest remaining friends long distance, that way he has a way to ease himself off of you. Honesty is always the way to approach sticky situation. He's going to find out one way or another about your long-distance fears.
2006-07-26 09:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by CrimsonStained 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is just be upfront and honest with him. if you dont tell him and keep things as they are right now he may feel like you lead him on. and if you ask yourself would you really want someone to do the same to you? besides if its meant to be it will workout reguardless of the distance between you.
2006-07-26 09:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by april p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "in 20 days I am leaving. We can either have the best 20 days of your life, or you can start the rest of your life without me tomorrow, but in 20 days i will be gone"
2006-07-26 09:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. Tell him that you are moving and don't want to continue a relationship long distance.
2006-07-26 09:02:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and up front with yourself and him. Tell him...Don't play games to hurt someone needlessly. I was always taught Honesty is the Best Policy and to this day I live by it and it is very true.
2006-07-26 09:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about one day, that's long enough just tell it's not going to work out and stand up for your self.!!!
2006-07-26 09:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋