i have a new girl friend.
we met.. bla bla bla..
alot in common etc.. etc. etc..
she gave me her passwords to almost everything like
friendster, email, YM, mySpace, bla bla bla..
recently, i was surfing the net and i just thought of brouzing through her friendster acount.
i looked in her TRASH folder (msg.es that have bin deleated)
and i saw a guy named michael. (just like my name, michael).
the msges were like
"hey! lets go out on a date!"
or
"hey lets meet up"
even
"i have a crush on you"
bla bla bla...
all the mesges were dated "dec 2005"
so now im thinking.........
am i just a backup guy? like sum kind of rebound dude for her? is it just a coensidens that our names were both michael??? im so confused ryt now..
ur thoughts and advice plssss...
i reeeaaly need it..
2006-07-26 08:56:47 · 30 answers · asked by mikee g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How are you a rebound guy? She deleted that other Michael and she's with you now.
2006-07-26 08:59:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's dumb.
OK, so imagine you're some dude named Michael who's sending those messages to some random chick on Friendster.
By your logic, you are now the boyfriend and whoever the random chick is dating is a backup??
Get a grip. This girl trusts you enough to give you the passwords to her entire life.(something most people could never do) Stop being an insecure idiot, splash some cold water in your face and enjoy a good relationship you have with this girl.
2006-07-26 16:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by shoelace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I have seen this a thousand times....your whole story had to do with what you saw that was ugly.......wondering.....did you read the entire dialogue for each respective conversation and see what SHE had to say or did you just read what you THOUGHT was enough to figure out that there was something going on???? Not saying she is or is not doing something wrong. Just saying get the WHOLE STORY and not just the part that you THINK defines the entire situation. Quick story for example.....my hubby has, on numerous occasions, sen parts of dialogues I have had with people online. I make EVERY effort to weed out people who want to talk to me about things that are inappropriate but those initial messages show up. Naturally THAT PART is what will be seen FIRST! I have had to defend myself SOOOO many times over this issue that I do not even go into chat rooms anymore. It is not worth the loss of my credibility. HOWEVER, having said THAT, I will also say that I absolutely RESENT the fact that I have to take that position because he DECIDED not to be thorough and read EVERYTHING. If he had on any one occasion, he would have seen for himself the whole situation. Instead he stopped at a point convenient for him and based his own opinions on that alone instead of making sure he was right in doing so by gathering ALL the information. I still hate him for that! He has NO right to question my credibility without having ALL the facts to back him up....which he would NOT, IF he read the entire thing! The point is two fold. She can NOT control another person's actions AND can not be held accountable for what anyone else will do! It is what SHE HERSELF does that counts. If you read the WHOLE thing and see that she is in the wrong then fine, hold her accountable but if she is taking a stand that says she is in a relationship and NOT willing to do or sy things against that and seems firm then you are safe. Do NOT discount her credibility because you do not have all the facts or because of what someone else says or does. Only for HER OWN!
2006-07-26 16:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man you shouldnt have gone through her personal stuff thats a sign of insecurity dude, but hey man when ever u meet a girl who just got out of a realtionship with another guy give her some time to get over him, or yea u could end up as a void filler, backup dummy, or a coverup.. so just ask her who else she talks to ( u knw the real answer since u were being nosey he he) and if she lies leave her alone there are more fish in the ocean
2006-07-26 16:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the world would make you come to the conclusion that your a rebound guy ?? Because your name is the same ?? Really ? You think a girl would rebound with a guy because he has the same name ?? That is ridiculous. And the messages were from 7 months ago. Your really being paranoid. What more can the girl do ? If you dont trust her after she has given you all her passwords then you need to check yourself.
2006-07-26 16:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath first.....if the date was BEFORE you met her then it's really none of your business. Not being harsh, just stating fact. Who she dated before you is her business. It's now July 26th.....if you were rebound for her she wouldn't be with you 7 almost 8 months later. I think you're freaking out unnecessarily. Don't you trust her? why are you searching through her accounts? (going into a trash file is searching). She gave you the passwords, if she was up to something or rebounding then she wouldn't have left ANYTHING there.
2006-07-26 16:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo man take this from me.if a girl gives u all of her acount paswords that big. i would never do that but she did so thats something man.she trust u and gave u all of this to show u her trust. so u need to trust her.those were deleted in other words its trash.she threw it away u can help what people send to u. u can throw it away but dude she likes u why she gave access.ur not the backup guy u r the guy.so dont be confused she likes u and if u really feel insecure u need to tell her. i would advise u not to do that.might tell her u dont trust her and she regret that she gave u all of that.so just shake it off ok and be happy she with u and trust u ok.belive me i know.
2006-07-26 16:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you guys met not long ago? If so, don't worry about the other dude, dude. Maybe he IS her ex, but just because you have the same name doesn't neccessarily mean that your her rebound. Here's a thought, why don't you ask her? There's no harm in that. I mean, if she gave you all of her passwords, you must mean something to her, right?
2006-07-26 16:06:10 · answer #8 · answered by Helix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a really sweat guy i think that maybe she might be cheating or just stuck between two guys give her a call ask her about the guy don't tell her you went threw her trash you just saw he was a friend if she likes another guy just tell her that shes missing out on a great guy and maybe there's someone out there who can like you and only you and no one else you sound really sweet and look really cutie i wish you the best.
2006-07-26 16:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lipglosschica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go hun. If the girl gave you the passwords then she did not care about anyone in those boxes. The internet can be a relationship breaker, don't let it break yours. She obviously has a great deal of trust for you to allow you access to all her accounts.
2006-07-26 15:59:54 · answer #10 · answered by Rasi E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if ur a backup.......or the new Bo. See but my problem is that 1. Why did she give you all that info. (Is she trying to build a false sense of trust /or really trust you) 2. Why are you scavenging so hard for info. maybe "TRUST" is the issue. ... I think you should talk to her and ask...but notice her body language when she answers. (Cause if she is lying or nervous you SHOULD see as trust seems to be the issue anyway).
2006-07-26 16:04:50 · answer #11 · answered by Atypical Marvel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋