C-section or vaginal birth witch is better,safer.Husband wants?

Question

My bestfriends husband wants her to have a C-section because he thinks vaginal birth is TOO unsafe(his grandmother died while giving birth to his mother).......I really need Suggestions........... After my pregnant friend asked me what she should do....HELP

Answer 1

Usually it's up to the doctor not the husband!!
Vaginal birth is essentially safer (no surgery), with today's technology it is rare that women die during childbirth. The reason his grandmother died is probably highly preventable now.

I can tell you that I did have a C-section because I failed to progress and it was a decision my Doctor made.

I am a labour & delivery nurse and would say both are safe but why have a section if it is not need.

Answer 2

Doctors will only allow a c-section if it is medically necessary otherwise it is a vaginal birth. You friends husband has to realize that grandma died way back in the day. Medically we are way more advanced now. There are complications with either one but if I could choose I would choose the c-section. I have given birth vaginally and I still have memories. It was the most horrid pain I have ever felt in my life. I don't want to have to go thru that again. I has been over 3 years that I gave birth to my son and I see no other kids in my immediate future. When that time comes I am going to ask if I have the option of which birthing method I want.

Both are safe but most will tell you the easiest if a vaginal birth. Please tell your friends husband that she will be fine. Doctors know more of what they are doing now than they did 40 or 50 years ago.

Answer 3

Well I can see why he wouldn't want it to be vaginal but the thing is, it's not his choice. It's your friend's decision. It's her body and she can decide how she wants to do it. Personally, I think if you can have a vaginal birth, do it. It's the natural way and these days most of the time when something goes wrong the doctors are right there and can help. With a c-section, it's a major surgery. It's routine, but still a major operation. With a c-section, there's always recovery which means a longer stay in the hospital and it's very uncomfortable when the anesthesia wares off.

Answer 4

I've had kids both ways (two C-sections because the babies were breach). I can tell you that the vaginal birth (which I did with absolutely NO drugs!!!!!!!!!!) was the way for me!!!!!

Unless this man is willing to wait on his wife hand and foot, do ALL of the work around the house that she currently does, including grocery shopping then she should have it vaginally.

In the days of his grandmother, medicine was probably not as good as it is today.

Better yet, tell him to go in and have his lower abdomen cut open then restitched and see how he manages. I'm sure he'll then sing a different tune.

Anyway, assuming she has a good doctor, her doctor will not do anything that SHE (your friend) would not want. She is, after all, the one having the baby...... her husband isn't.


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Answer 5

Most likely the reason the woman died during birth was b/c that was a long time ago. Vaginal birth is definately the safer way to go, although maybe alot more painful. I myself opted for a c-section, (but had medical reasons). Many things can happen during childbirth. If she wants the experience, it is better to go the natural way. C-sections, if elected, are unecessary and may pose further risk and complications for the baby and the mom. Tell the husband to research both procedures. Also, tell him that there are also many women that have died during c-sections.

Answer 6

With a c-section she wouldnt be able to drive for 6-12 weeks and that would mean no sex for that long too. Does her hubby really want to go that long without sex? I had vaginal births with all of mine and had no problems-no tearing no stitches nothing. I think a vaginal birth is better because your body seems to heal up in a shorter time. I was able to resume sex 4-6 weeks after a vaginal delivery.

Answer 7

Giving birth many, many years ago was very dangerous and many women died while doing it. However, medicine has advanced so much since then that giving birth natually is the safest way to give birth. A c-section is major surgery. I've had 2. The recovery time is 3 times as long and she will have a scar forever. Every woman should be given the chance to give birth naturally. Dying while giving birth these days is extrememly rare!

Answer 8

I believe in trying to give birth vaginally first, and then only having a C-section if there is a medical need. I think many husbands secretly wish that their wives would have C-sections, but for the wrong reasons. Giving birth today is a pretty safe thing to do; it was only hundreds of years ago, before we had hospitals, doctors, and technology, that it was common for women to die in childbirth. It's the woman's decision (well, between her and her OBGYN).

Answer 9

Well, like others have said what happened with his grandmother while sad is not very likely now a days. Vaginally is definitely safer because a c-section is major surgery. Oh & I have to disagree with one of the answers. It is NOT her doctors descision it's HER descision. It bugs me that docs have so much control over womens bodies now a days. Child birth is a very natural thing that has been happening for many many years.

Answer 10

I would think vaginal would be safer. Women have been having babies that way forever! His grandmother probably had medical problems.Besides with a vaginal birth the recovery time is so much shorter.