Im ready to date but my mom says no. should i go behing her back, or tell her straight off? what should i do? help!
2006-07-26 08:50:31 · 18 answers · asked by feefee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen to your mother.
You are wrong.
She is right.
2006-07-26 08:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
whoever you date will most likely only be there short term, so I wouldn't engage in a battle with your mom that could cause long term hostility between you two.
first, you have to understand your mom is doing what she feels is in your best interest. and the way people are today, i can see where she is coming from.
but still, depending on your age, i would understand why you are ready to experience dating.
talk to your mom and ask her if she would allow you to date with supervision. such as her or your date's parents going along with the two of you.
if she still says no, ask her when she thinks would be a good time to bring up the subject again.
whatever you do, DO NOT DISOBEY HER and date behind her back. all you will be doing is making yourself untrustworthy, which will blow up in your face.
have patience, your day WILL come.
good luck
2006-07-26 09:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by lilmissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're under 18, you really have no choice in the matter, but don't get me wrong. I feel for you. However, consider this: People want the things they cannot have.
Perhaps it is your desire to date that compels you so, and not the person of the opposite sex. Why not try having this person come to your house to "hang out." It's not dating, but you still get to see the person, which can be just as rewarding.
2006-07-26 08:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by Axel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you are old enough, then you can try to show your mom how responsible you are. She might not be ready for you to go out. SO you have to show her so she will trust you to do what's right from wrong. It takes time. Don't be in such a rush to grow up. What you want will come eventually.
2006-07-26 08:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by fran c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your mom, she has the experience and she most likely knows what she's talking about. When she thinks you're ready, she will let you. Until then, have fun being a kid.
2006-07-26 08:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by JC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? in the 1800s girls got married when they were 13, but they only lived to be like 40 and they had to have babies. today, with the life span and everything, it's ideal to wait until you're at least 15 to start dating...or you know 20. just kidding. just don't be in a hurry to grow up.
2006-07-26 08:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom knows whats best for you. You may not think so right know but Later on you'll be kicking youself asking, "Why didn't i listen to my Mom?" Believe me, I'm 23 and I still call my Mom for advice.
Be patient, Boyfriends will come....
2006-07-26 08:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by buttercup83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should respect her wishes because there may be a perfectly good reason she wont let you date. she may think that you are still to young or that the person you want to date may not be what she wants for you. just listen to her because she knows whats best for you. remember she has lived longer and she was once your age and she knows what you are feeling so just talk to her and find out her reasons
2006-07-26 08:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by katie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tryed talking to her?? Come to an arrangement. Likethe guy comes over to your house 1st, maybe meet with your mum for a min, so she can see what he is like. And then only go out for a couple of hrs 1st, and let her build her trust on you gradually...
And you know Mums always know best:)
2006-07-26 08:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by roags 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should listen 2 ur mom she'll tell u when she thinks ur ready 2 date
2006-07-26 08:55:04 · answer #10 · answered by naashomwheeler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey may be your mom don't wants you to date because you are too young listen to her if you go behind her back and start dating you might regret it and wind up saying if only i would have listen to my mom.besides that day will come don't rush things.
2006-07-26 08:56:09 · answer #11 · answered by meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋