2006-07-26 08:46:02 · 18 answers · asked by inkedchik 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You put the toddler in the bed, after a calming and soothing night-time ritual... a final drink of milk, a cuddle, a story. Do this either in the child's room or a neutral area. Not in your room.
Put the child down in his bed, and tell him it's night-night time. Tell him he has to stay in bed, and keep his favourite stuffy company. (BTW, unclutter the bed if it is too full of "friends" -- 3 will do...)
If he pops up in the night, then you do not say anything or do anything other than take his hand / pick him up, and redeposit him in his bed. Say "it's night-night time" and leave, closing the door if it something that you normally do.
Do not engage him in conversation or provide any positive feedback. But don't get upset. Be a neutral robot. If he gets into a fit, then tough-nougies for him. By the age of a toddler we all know the waterworks are a big ol' drama scene with not that much backing it up.
Everytime he gets up, redeposit him in this brusque manner. The first couple of nights may be hellish (so try it on a Friday so you don't have work the next day!), but he'll soon learn there is no reward for visiting you.
It's worth the effort because in the end everyone is more well rested in their own beds.
2006-07-26 08:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by Lynne D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same prob w/my daughter. I finally had enough of sharing my bed w/her so every night I would put her to bed in her own room read her a book and put a kids song cd on. Then I would lay down with her untill she fell asleep. Most of the time I would fall asleep too and wake up at like 2am, but if you do this early enough maybe it will not be that late when you wake up. After a while she got so used to being in her own bed that I could just stay a little while and leave and she would go to sleep on her own.
2006-07-26 16:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by agirll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that is soooo hard to do when they've been in your bed since day 1. My son is 5 and I just got him in his own bed 3 weeks ago. Finally!!! She just have to be willing to give up a good nights sleep a few night in a row. It's best to create a bedtime routine (i.e. put on jammies, brush teeth, read a book, kisses and hugs) and keep a consistent bed time. Simply put him in bed and keep putting him back in bed until he gives up. Don't reward him by talking to him or laying with him. Keep it short and sweet. "It's bed time" then put him back in bed. you may have to do this 30 times, but the next night you may only do it 20, and so on until he can stay there all night. It sucks, but it is sooooo worth it in the long run.
2006-07-26 19:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Amber D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put him in the bed, and let him cry it out if he has to. I know it sounds mean, but it's not. He needs to learn how to put himself to sleep. Make sure you have a routine as well. Bath, pajamas, read a story, lay down, kisses, hugs, lights out. He needs structure when it comes to this. Just lay him down and let him deal with it. Also try getting him a stuffed animal or something to sleep with so he's not "alone". It could be scary to a toddler to be alone in his own room.
2006-07-26 15:48:40 · answer #4 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to stay by his bed with your hand on him until he falls asleep or maybe give him one of your old shirts to swaddle in, something with your sent on it. It could take a while for your toddler to finally fall off to sleep, so make sure you have a huge cup of coffee the next day! Good Luck and God Bless You!
2006-07-26 17:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by Prayerwarrior 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For my two year old when she first started sleeping in her own room I would let her pick a cartoon that she wanted to watch and let that play while she laid in bed until she went to sleep and every since than she has no problem with going to sleep in her own room.
2006-07-26 16:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to try the crying method which is very hard but effective leave them to settle in their own bed give them godnight kiss and say they have to get to sleep on their own check on them every 10mins but make it clear they will NOT be getting out of their bed you are still there for them and love them but they must get to sleep they will cry for a good few hours but each night less till by 3 to 4 days will hopefully be cracked very very hard though so be warned! but well worth it....
2006-07-26 15:52:53 · answer #7 · answered by punkcoolhair 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the best thing to do is put on some soft music about 20 minutes before you lay them down for the night so the toddler gets used to the music and it will relax him or her, another thing you can do is give him or a her a warm bath using aromatic baby bath.
2006-07-26 23:48:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kayes24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleep in his bed with him for a short time.
2006-07-26 21:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by Lakeview22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say if you sleep in your own room for a month but sleep in it every night i'll give ya 100 bucks.my parents did that to me when i was 3.
2006-07-27 15:15:59 · answer #10 · answered by sarah h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋