And your mother must have been exiled for having you, eh? Quit posting these hate filled questions and get a grip! And the word is "lives", brother. Before you type in a question, think it out, and use your check spelling feature.
2006-07-26 08:32:04
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answer #2
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answered by ? 4
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If a Christian woman binds herself into a relationship with a non-christian man, then she is "unequally yoked," and the marriage or the relationship will not be blessed until both are saved and living according to the Word of God.
Any man who would be in a "dating" relationship with a woman and would seek to cause her to sin or stumble, and then be happy that she is in sin, is not a man who can be trusted and is certainly not a Christian himself. So, I would answer your question with this: If you see your "woman" as a disgrace (if she claims to be a Christian), are you the one who is putting her in a position to be ashamed? If so, then you will be responsible to answer for her sins, as well as your own.
I believe you're confused about your role as the nurturing man in the relationship.
To make sense of what Scripture says about men, you have to understand God's purpose in the way he designed us. There's a lot out there on the subject, but nothing that roots the aspects of man's design in biblical principles quite like William Mouser's "Five Aspects of Man." (For more information, go to http://www.fiv easpects.org.) What follows is my "spin" on the five aspects. I hope it is faithful to what Pastor Mouser intended in his study.
ASPECT #1: LORD OF THE EARTH
In Genesis 1:28, God told Adam to "fill the earth and subdue it." The word "subdue" carries the connotation of taking responsibility. It is part of a man's design to take initiative and be productive. God designed men to take ground, make progress, and enlarge their realm of responsibility.
In our fallen nature, however, we tend to either abuse or abandon each of the aspects of our design. Many men abuse the "Lord of the earth" aspect by trying to take possession of that which is not in their realm of responsibility. A substantial number of the Ten Commandments are prohibitions against claiming stewardship over that which is not yours (thou shalt not steal, covet, commit adultery).
Other men abandon this aspect altogether by avoiding responsibility rather than embracing it. I have been surprised at the number of business books I've read recently in which authors crow about how they have gotten rid of all of their responsibilities--employees and the like--and are getting rich without a care in the world.
ASPECT #2: HUSBANDMAN
In Genesis 2:15, God put Adam in the Garden of Eden to "tend it." Not only was Adam to take responsibility by taming more of the earth, he was also to exercise watchful care over that which was his responsibility. God designed men to nurture the things in their realm and bring them to productivity.
In our fallen natures, however, we men tend to abuse the husbandman aspect by ravaging our realm of productivity, stripping it of value in a greedy attempt to maximize short-term gain. Men tend to do this with things they own, and also with relationships, using and discarding people rather than equipping them to be what God wants them to be. We can also abandon our husbandman aspect by refusing to nurture anyone or anything at all, living a completely self-centered life.
ASPECT #3: SAVIOR
In Genesis 3:15, God pronounced a curse: the "seed of the woman" would crush the head of the serpent. The word for "seed" is "zera," which, according to Hebrew scholar Walter Kaiser, is deliberately flexible enough to refer to the one who represents the group (Christ the Messiah) as well as to all of the male offspring AS a group.
Let me be clear: men do not save themselves from their sins. But God HAS created men with a desire to fight for truth and stand against evil and injustice. We see this in little boys who like play guns, as well as in the longing for significant purpose that a man experiences when watching a movie like Braveheart. To the degree that we act as warriors, defenders and protectors, our actions have a destructive effect on Satan's schemes (see Romans 16:20).
Unfortunately, fallen man abuses the savior aspect by fighting for the wrong things, fighting in an ungodly way, or by attracting a woman with his ability to protect and then using that same power to dominate her. We can also abandon this aspect by refusing to take a stand for anything at all.
ASPECT #4: SAGE
The book of Proverbs was written by a father admonishing his son to be wise. A sage applies God's wisdom in everyday circumstances. The sage is no guru hiding out on a mountaintop: in Old Testament times, a leader was seen to be wise "in the city gates," which meant that he was making judgements publicly, where the wisdom or foolishness of his decisions would be obvious to all.
Fallen man abuses the sage aspect by pretending to employ God's wisdom while actually manipulating others for personal benefit. Jesus said of such men that it would be better for them that a millstone were tied around their necks and they were drowned; the coming judgement will be swift and harsh for such evil people. We can also abandon our sage aspect by acting foolishly--that is, contrary to God's wisdom.
ASPECT #5: GLORY OF GOD
First Corinthians 11:7 says that man is the "glory of God." This could mean a lot of things, but one meaning seems certain: when men live out their design in a God-honoring way, society develops a great respect and reverence for God.
I'm no historian, but it seems to me that when men are weak and irresponsible, society develops a low view of God. When men abuse the glory of God aspect, people see God as abusive and cruel. When men abandon this aspect, people see God as impotent and distant.
Please understand, I'm not suggesting that we as men are in charge of "protecting God's reputation." We would be fools to give ourselves that much credit. But the fact remains that our actions, or lack thereof, has REAL consequences.
HOW SHOULD WE THEN LIVE?
A godly man is one who, through the power of God's grace, becomes redeemed to these aspects of his design. This man becomes aware of and repents of the things he does to abuse or abandon his design. Furthermore, I would assume, he lives out this design in a balanced way. For example, some men may have more of one particular aspect, but that does not justify their neglect of the other aspects.
Maybe if you can set yourself right before God, you will be able to be the example you need to be for your mate or the woman you are planning to marry.
2006-07-26 08:37:03
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answer #8
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answered by Anonymous
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