am i supposed to give everyone in my wedding party a gift?

Question

so- what does the groom give? this IS costly :(

Answer 1

i think it is standard custom to do so. i know some brides have purchased the jewlery they wanted the girls to wear as their gift.

Answer 2

Traditionally the bride gives everyone on her side a gift. That means maid/matron of honor, bridesmaids and any male attendants. The groom gives everyone on his side a gift. The gift is really just a thank you for being in the wedding. I have known people to give everything from personalized shirts, to a mini photo album of the wedding day.

My husband and I wanted to do something for all of our attendants and gave them personalized mugs along with a handkerchief that I had embroidered. It took a bit of time to do the embroidery but overall it was a really inexpensive present. Even a nice note would suffice if you can't afford to do anything more.

Answer 3

Yes! Everyone that is part of the wedding party should receive a gift from the bride and groom.

Since you had mentioned that it's getting pretty pricey, go to theknot.com and look on the boards. The Knotties are the best resource!! They love DIY projects and if you want to give small but great gift on a budget they have great ideas in a lot of the bios.

http://bios.magnificentbliss.com/specialty/

This website has a bunch of Knotties' bios and great ideas for your wedding too!

Answer 4

It's pretty much practice to do so. After all, those in your wedding party have gone to some personal expense to be in your wedding, and have also probably helped you out with wedding planning. At the very least, they've thrown the bride a shower and the groom a bachelor party. Their effort is worthy of a small thank you gift.

Answer 5

Is is actually a custom to give your bridesmaids and flower girls a gift, but you can actually do this different ways. I have known some people to buy the jewelry that they will wear in the wedding, for the flowergirls you could buy their head pieces or simple jewelry. Another idea is you could buy personalized champagne glasses with their name on it including their role in the wedding. (aka maid of honor, bridesmaid etc...) Or you could get creative and give them a personalized gift such as a picture frame with the date of the wedding on it so when you get the pictures back you can give it to them and they can put it in there. I have gotten all of these but my favorite was my friend had shirts made with our role in the wedding printed on the shirt. We wore them at the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner.
Some brides have given the mothers gifts. It is not really a custom but just a nice way to say thanks.
The groom traditionally gives flasks or beer mugs or some sort of "manly" thing like that.

Answer 6

The bride gives gifts to the maids, and the groom gives gifts to the groomsmen. There are lots of sites to choose gifts from. You can look on ebay also. It's anything you want to get them really. Something that says thank you for being a part of my wedding and helping me out during this stressful time. You can get each person a different gift or all the same gifts. Popular groomsmen gifts are flasks or beer mugs, personalized. Here's a couple of sites with ideas:

http://www.groomsmangifts.us/

http://www.ashmontengraving.com/category/000607.shtml

I just thought of something cool, I think. How about cuff links for their tux's? Something they can keep and also use at the wedding. Something personal.

Answer 7

While it is nice to get a small souvenir from this momentous occasion, the choice is absolutely yours. It doesn't state anywhere that its mandatory to give out gifts on your wedding (you could be on the budget and/or have too many people attending the wedding). However, if you would like, there are some sites that give good prices on party favors (matches, small napkin rings, small photo frame, etc. which all have the date and your names inscribed). Good Luck and if the wedding didn't take place yet Congrats and All the Best!

Answer 8

I do believe it is tradition, but that doesn't mean you have to stick with traditional gifts. I got lucky during my wedding and happened upon a neat little find at a local dollar store. It was a small ceramic statue, about three inches tall, with a bride and groom standing next to a book (which opened). I bought the whole box went home and printed of labels and labeled each one with the persons name, our names and wedding date. The labels replaced the ones inside the book. They were great and everyone loved the personalized idea. Plus it was cheap, which is also a nice bonus. Get creative and you might just surprise yourself.

Answer 9

yes, you are supposed to get everyone in your wedding party a gift unless you are paying for their dresses/tuxes. If you aren't then you should be getting them a gift becuase they are putting money out to do you a favour. The least you can do is give a gift. They don't have to be expensive either. You can give them earrings or a neckless to wear to the wedding. or a frame and some candles from the dollar store. Get the guys engraved shot glasses or beer mugs. Very cheap and a keepsake from the wedding. If you are paying for the dresses and such then you shouldnt have to give a gift because you are already putting out the money they should be putting out.

Answer 10

Its a standing custom to do that, but you can give them small things. I gave my bridal party gift certificates to Macys, the earrings to match their gowns, and I had t-shirts made that said, "bridesmaid", etc.. for us to wear the night before the wedding. Anything choose, no matter how costly or how reasonable can always be a gift.

Answer 11

I got married last September and I found that the knot.com was a great place to buy gifts for my wedding party and they are very affordable. You can also get their names engraved on most everything that you purchase. they have lots fo stuff for grooms such as pocket watches, flasks, beer steins, cuff links, kives. Make the grooms gifts your future husbands respobsibility. At least make him pick them out. He knows better wihat his groomsmen would like. I got tiffany style bracelets with my brides maides initials on them and they wore them with their dresses. Everybody loved their gifts. I even got silver piggy banks with the names of the flower girls and ring bearers. They are things that are very special to them. I hightly recommend the knot.com