If a family member gets married & doesn't tell anyone for 2 months. Then tell family members they are registered at ......
Do you gift or no gift?
2006-07-26 08:23:00 · 9 answers · asked by snuffieslady 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would be more concerned with why they waited so long to tell anyone.
My feelings on gifts however is you are giving a gift out of love, hope and wishing them well in their new life. Gifts are not an obligation despite what Ms. Manners may say. If you feel you want wish them well, then by all means give them a gift. If you do not wish them well, don't.
2006-07-26 08:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by Erin S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's so rude of them! They didn't want u at the wedding or reception and waited 2 months to tell you they are registered. There may be some extenuating circumstances - like they didn't have a ceremony or anything. But waiting 2 months to tell people seems a bit odd. But, you are not obligated to buy a wedding gift.
If they are buying a new home, they had only a registered marriage (ie no ceremony or reception), I would say maybe you could use the registry to pick a nice housewarming gift. It's still up to you. If you wish to give them something out of your kind heart, you should.
2006-07-26 15:27:01 · answer #2 · answered by ami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should they of registered for wedding gifts two months after their wedding? No, and I know I've read that on a Dear Abby, Dear Margo, or Dear Prudy site!
Wedding gift are not guaranteed even if you do have a wedding. In our society it seems like we are letting something like a wedding to become an excuse to be the gravy train. It's not!
If they plan to have a nice dinner for family and friends and you would like to buy something that would be nice. If they just registered for the simple plan of getting loads of stuff for free, well to be honest I don't think you should encourage this type of behavior.
2006-07-26 15:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, they don't get to elope and not pay for you to be at the wedding and then have people pay for them gifts. With the wedding comes the gifts. That's like HAVEING a wedding and telling someone your not important enough to be a part of my special day but i do expect a really expensive gift.
2006-07-26 15:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by F.Duke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only give them a gift if you feel the need. They didn't feel the need to invite you to the wedding, so it's your choice. If you had been invited to the wedding would you have brought a gift? Probably.
2006-07-26 15:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by Carol R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did not go to the wedding then you are not obligated to buy them a gift.period.
2006-07-26 15:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by jim w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. wanted presents should've dropped a dime as to when they were getting married. now it just looks like they're looking for freebies
2006-07-26 15:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no gift
2006-07-26 22:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its family, do it. if its just a friend, send a card. don't be so cheap.
2006-07-26 15:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by Queen of the Dachshunds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋