What should I do?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for a few months but I'm starting to like his friend. I know his friend likes me in return because he told me he did. I like my boyfriend but I have a lot more in common and get along a lot better with his friend. His friend just got out of a relationship and he says he wants to be single for a while. If I leave my boyfriend for his friend, there's a big chance that he wont wanna date me because he wants to be single for a while.. AND it'll ruin his friendship with my boyfriend. What should I do?

Answer 1

First of all... break up with your boyfriend. You don't want to be with him. I know this because you seem more interested in his friend. If you break up with your boyfriend, you can have some time to be "single" so you can figure out what you want in life. Later down the road if you the friend and you would like to be together you will not hurt your current boyfriend as much. If you dump your current boyfirend and jump into a new relationship with his friend, you will make your current boyfriend feel inadequate. From what you said in your question, it seems like you don't want to hurt him. I'd say, break up... take a break for a couple months then if you want to be with the friend then pursue it later.

Answer 2

Since your Boyfreind's Friend decided to be single for while, it won't be so easy to date him, also it depend upon how faith he is to your boyfriend. He might not want to hur your boyfreind or does not want to bring any trouble between you and your boy freind.

If you leave your boyfreind, you will end up no where, neither your boy friend accept you back nor your boyfreind's freind accept. So all you would do is creating a big up roar.

What to do? Be faithful to your boy freind? Try to know how did your boyfreind's freind came out of the relationship?

When in Romance, people only show their "good side" After marriage you began to see their "bad side" too. But If you can find their "bad side" before any commitment, you are brilliant.

Answer 3

i've been in the same situtation. it's really hard to decide between the two.

now, im not gonna be the type that just says "follow your heart" cuz if u did that, then there wouldn't be a question up here. so my advice is to wait a little bit and see what develops. if ur bf friend doesn't wanna stay single for as long as he thinks, then go ahead and date him. cuz ur bf will get over it eventually. we all do, cuz it's happened to me. but if he wants to stay single, then i'd stay with ur bf cuz there must be some things that u like about him to have started dating him in the first place

i hope it all works out for u

Answer 4

I'm assuming that you haven't made a huge committment to your boyfriend yet. I think if you have only been with him a couple months, and the thrill is already gone, maybe you should consider whether or not you should be dating him at all - regardless of how things may or may not go with the friend. If you are only hanging on to him so you have someone to date, that's not really fair to either one of you.

As far as dating his friend later, you do run the risk of coming in between their friendship. If you treat them and yourself with respect, you may find that it isn't an issue. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

well i dont know bout these friends. why would ur bf friend tell u that he likes u.that not only causes drama but thats wrong. a friend dont do that.i wanted to be with whole bunch a girls and i didnt ask them out and my friends did.so i was damn to late cuz they broke up but still that was his ex and thats not right.i was even friends with one and took her home and she wanted to be more so i told her no and she got mad.im a friend and i wouldnt do that ever.even if he said yes i know its not right. u missed ur chance so deal with it.u need to just forget the other guy but if u cant then why lead a guy on and if hes not a friend then most likely he will get with u dont deserve ur bf is ur thinking bout his friend. if u cant fight ur feeling for this other guy then u should leave him.why waste his time when he can find better.so yeah do what u feel is right.thats what u should do.

Answer 6

If you think you don't want to be w/ your b/f anymore since you know there's someone better out there, break it off, but DO NOT go running to the best friend. You should try being single for a while.

Answer 7

Girl you need to let that on go and see what happens with your own boyfriend first. Then if everything isn't still working out in 3 months or more then see where you stand with the friend and go for it.

Answer 8

If you're not happy with your boyfriend and your feelings aren't the same for him, you need to end the relationship for both of your sakes...it has NOTHING to do with his friend at this point...Honestly, it seems to me like you are one of those girls who always has to have a boyfriend. Don't be like that. Have some confidence in yourself, get to know yourself better, and then the next relationship (with whoever it may be) will be much better. Promise.

Answer 9

If you are attracted to someone else than your partner, then you are probably not really in love with your partner. It's just attraction, that's all and nothing more.

If you were really in love with him, you wouldn't have any interest in dating his friend. You might be physically attracted to his friend, but you wouldn't want to go out with the friend.

Take a look at that. If this is correct (you decide), then you should end it with your current partner before someone really gets hurt (more seriously hurt later than compared to right now).

It isn't right to pretend to be in love with someone when you really are not. No one wins in that kind of relationship.

Answer 10

Well it depends because if he wants to be single for a while his is probably waiting for you. Now you you can wait for him and if your relations with your current boyfriend isn't as great as the friend then you should make it work fo a while.