2006-07-26 08:20:06 · 5 answers · asked by miss_mini_maddy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You maintain a platonic friendship with the guy and, if need be, only spend time with him in groups or by inviting him over to your place when your parents are around.
Ask your parents about this arrangement. It may be that this is what they are concerned about, rather than what name you assign to your relationship.
And in the meantime, you can ask yourself: Am I ready for a permanent relationship? Am I able to take ultimate responsibility for what happens in my life (and with him, take responsibility for what happens in our life together)? Am I able to put this person first (even before Mom and Dad)? Am I able to make a permanent commitment to him?
See, look what happens if you don't do that: you end up with third parties intruding, or a breakup. And you find out the hard way, too late, that such things are not supposed to happen.
Far better to think about the consequences of one's actions in advance before taking any action at all, and only take a given course of action when you are able to take full responsibility for it.
See, even if you don't 'go all the way' before marriage, you are still taking steps in that direction if you engage in sexually arousing activities, so you need to be sure you really want that relationship of oneness, so you don't put your hand to the plow and have to turn around later.
So that's no doubt what's in the back of your parents' minds when they want you to keep things platonic.
But as you have seen, there are ways to maintain a friendship with this guy, they are ones I am still using successfully (well, not the 'only with my parents' part, because they live 7000 miles away) at the age of 42. I am thereby spared the riff-raff who don't treat their significant other with respect, and yet I manage to maintain contact with the man I love but am not engaged to at this time.
Please think about it; I pray God will give you the wisdom to know how to proceed in your particular situation.
2006-07-26 08:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by songkaila 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really want him, then say "**** my parents". No matter how much they think they can control that part of our life, they have no right to do so. That part of our life is ours and only ours.
2006-07-26 15:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your parents but if you like him alot go for it and don;t let anyone to find out about you two
2006-07-26 15:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are and how old he is. Trust your parents, they only want the best for you.
2006-07-26 15:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parents. Don't turn into a whore.
2006-07-26 15:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋