"spanking" your child?

Question

whats your take on it? i grew up getting spanked and i don't have a problem with it i always deserved it and its not like i came out with bruises. i think theres a difference between spanking and beating your child. what about you?

Answer 1

I honestly believe that the downfall of respectable children/teenagers began at the same time that spanking became taboo. If you look back at the time when kids talking back, violence in the school, bullying, worrying about school shootings, it all started and became progressively worse at the time "society" said spanking kids is abuse. It's not abuse, it's laying down limitations. We all turned out just fine. It's the kids who are growing up in this 'anti-spank' world that we ALL need to worry about.

Answer 2

i grew up many of times being spanked. but now as being a divorced single mother raising 3 kids(dad doesnt really come around) im all that there is to show them alot of love.so when i use my hands it is towards love. so no i dont put my hands on my children as far as spanking them.
i do correct them, and the way i do it is fine my children behave. my father has a chicken pen, and when they do something wrong the shovel chicken poop. so very rarely do my kids miss behave. lol. now with beating a child that is so wrong!!! there is a difference. spanking a child on the butt where it dont put bruises. beating a child is where there is bruises, can you imaging what is going through that childs mind.and and how bad it hurts. i turn the table think how bad it would hurt the parent if they where beat like that. it would hurt. sorry for the long answer. but thats the way i look at it.

Answer 3

I depends how you apply it. when my son was at the age where he could make decisions, it was time to learn the difference between good decisions and bad ones.
Good decision play with his toys.
Bad decision play with electrical outlet.
First I would never call him to come over to me and yell or spank him, I'll explain later. When I did call him and have him come over to me, it was to give him a hug and tell him how much I loved him or other type of positive reinforcement.
Second, if he was doing something wrong(bad decision) I would go over to him say no don't do/play with that, phisically pick him up move him away from the area and give him some thing else to do/play with.
Third, If I had to tell him a second time, I would do the same thing as above but in a more stern voice NO, do it again an I'll give you a spank. (notice I said "A" meaning one).
Fourth, If he presisted( young kids WILL push the envlope), I would institute the three strikes rule(no more talking), I would do the same as above Excep this time it was NO and A controlled spank on the butt. It was not enough to hurt but he knew his father/mother was angary and he did not want his mom or dad mad at him.
Two points, first : it taught my son no ment no, and what was
acceptable behavior and what wasn't.
Second : By correcting his behivor right away it diffused any anger I was feeling, thus avoiding hurting the child physically/emotionally.
I've seen too many times where the parent said no repeatdly until they lost their temper and beat the Sh*t out of their child.
First the child learns that no does not mean no, and it leads to child abuse on the part of the parent.
Calling the child, I've seen where parents(including my own) call their children over and yell, scream, and hit them. Then when the parent calls them over for a GOOD reason, the child runs in the opposite direction.
Ex : my son and I were at a supermarket, he was about two years old, he was facinated by the automatic door and went to check it out, he put himself in a situation where he could get hurt(knocked over or get his fingers caught in the door). In stead of yelling at him I called him over and gave him a hug and told him not to go near the door, no more danger.
Oh, by the way, now my son is a college graduate and currently a Para-medic.
So I guess we didn't do a bad job of raising him.
Remember if you love your child you'll find a way.

Answer 4

I'm the same way,I love my parents and have a great relationship with them,and I got spankings growing up,it really honestly surprises me that its such a BIG deal today,growing up I knew I wasnt being abused and I knew that they loved me and they never spanked me unless I really had it coming,and no spanking is not the same thing as beating,and I honestly think I am a better person because my parents werent afraid to spank me,it taught me that there were consequences for my actions and it taught me alot of respect for my parents.

Answer 5

Spanking is okay as long as you control how hard you hit and only do it for a good reason. Not all the time and only when appropriate. There are other things you can do that are more helpful in some situations. Just use your best judgement.

Answer 6

Hitting your child in any way is wrong. Spanking, beating, call it whatever you want, it's WRONG! There are other ways to "teach" (punish, if you will) your child. It doesn't do you or your child any good to spank. Suggestions for substitutes to spankings? Trial and error. Eventually, you'll find something non-violent that works.

Answer 7

I agree we should do it. I got my butt whipped when I was growing up and, like you, I deserved it. The same thing with my daughter who I rarely had to spank but had no problem with it when she did need it. I do it to my grandkids too when they need it. Nothing gets their attention faster than a quick swat on the bum. If we can train animals that way, why not humans? As long as it is done in moderation and is needed, do it. Maybe kids would behave better than the screaming brats I keep running into in the stores. I'd like to hit them and their parents for letting them do it and not doing anything about it. Good question!!!

Answer 8

Spank only if the child is about to danger himself or another and is a toddler (ie: putting hand on hot stove, fingers in vcr, fingers in outlet, etc.). Punishment works best-especially when taking away something they like. I have 3 girls and have only spanked 4 times in my life. All EXCELLENT kids! I am so lucky! Good luck!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

i think its right because verbal trouble aint gonna help at all and they never listen to you and/or take advantage of u so teach them a lesson and they wont do it again because they know the consequences. my aunt has the same problem and if she doesnt start spanking them i will and im only 12 but the oldest and it should be done way more