i fear rejection...?

Question

i like this guy A LOT. but i'm terrified of him saying no, because i feel like the only reason i'm happy right now is because i have the hope of him maybe liking me back. i'm just scared that if i tell him i like him, and he says no, i'll be too crushed. what should i do?

Answer 1

well, either ask him out and get a yea or nay, or stop dwelling on it, because that will hurt more then rejection, if you wait to long, some one else may ask him out, and he may think I really like this person, but, she never asked me out, so i'll settle for second best. So, go get him darling

Answer 2

u need to take chances.sometimes they are not what u wanted but u need to know right.so if u like him alot then u need tell him.thats sad how u think hes the only reason ur happy if u think bout u know there other things to be happy 4.if he says no then all he wants is friends and thats not that bad right. still u want him as more so u need to tell him.if u feel deep inside that he does dig u then u need to take a chance.what if anothe r girl comes to him and he says yes cuz hes thinking u are not intrested. so u need to do something u never know what can happen the next day.good luck

Answer 3

You have to refocus your thoughts of yourself. You should NEVER EVER rely on someone else liking you as a reason to be happy. Your happiness has to be of something else, whether you have loving family, or good friends, God...ANYTHING but some crush. Because it shouldn't matter.

Honestly, even if he did like you, you're way too young to consider marriage so who knows if you'd even be with him forever anyway. Look at it from the outside. Don't listen to Jessica Simpsons pop lyrics...pop music isnt real...no one really is happy JUST BECAUSE someone likes you back....its a nice feeling but its a dumb reason to base your entire happiness on...

Answer 4

Honey your happiness should come from within yourself, you are giving to much power to someone that you don't really know. I have always said never hide your feelings, if you like him tell him how you feel what do you have to lose you don't have him now and if he says no you still will not have him but if you tell him how you feel and he feels the same you gained a love.
Good Luck SweetHeart

Answer 5

First of all how does he act when you are around him? Is he nice to you? Does he notice you? Does he pay attention to you when you say something? Has he ever spoke to you? If yes to any of these I would say something to him and find out his feelings once and for all, so either way you can move on with with or without him and get the ball (your life) rolling.

Answer 6

if just the IDEA that he may say yes is the only reason you are happy, then you have other issues. he isnt going to want to be with someone who clings to him with the only life they have left. talk to a girl, forget about guys for now.

Answer 7

honestly its the same thing with me, but you just gotta get out there and feel him out, if you think he likes u just open up n tell him how u feel, if hes a good guy he will take it as a comliment if he doesnt like u that way back. Hopefully he likes you back and get alot closer with him :) goodluck

Answer 8

You need to find happiness in yourself, not through another person. If you ask him out and he says no, that's not a big deal. Then at least you will know and you can find someone else.

Answer 9

Well you will never know if you don't tell him. Besides you have to a risk and if he does reject then you two can remain friends. A friend is better than no friend at all right?

Answer 10

Never give men power over your own happiness. If your ego is that delicate you should not be dating period. Read some books on self esteem before you do any more damage to yourself.