i'm constantly comparing myself to other girls and feeling inadequate. i torture myself with this!! ARGH!!
2006-07-26 07:55:11 · 11 answers · asked by lauryola 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
you need first to identify your strengths and weaknesses and build further on that. Enhance your strengths (like, if you are good at painting, make sure you paint at least every week) and learn more about your weaknesses (like, if you know you're poor at chess, try to study the game). Do more the things you can successfully achieve and dont mind the things that you cant do. The key note is: focus on your strengths & your natural skills, not on your weaknesses. Then you'll lose that low self-esteem.
2006-07-26 08:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by rn_md 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What worked for me was I started a journal, based on advice in a woman's assertiveness training class. Each day I would write 3 positive statements that were true about myself, about what I can do and what I am.
I am helpful. I can change a car's oil. I can learn.
On day's you can't think of any new ones, go back and copy from a previous page or pages. Do this every day. It does not take too long before you start discovering other good things about yourself, and it makes it hard to lose your self-esteem again. If you do, you go back and re-read from page 1.
It works.
2006-07-26 15:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out within yourself why you need to compare yourself to other girls and why it is you feel inadequate? Why do you care what other people think of you? It's just their thoughts, which is a series of brainwaves. Just be yourself and happy with who you are. Your photo looks pretty and you look like a nice person. Just try to stop worrying about what other people think. I'm sure they think good things anyway. You have to remember, it is not a competition and the less you worry about it, the more attractive you will be.
2006-07-26 14:59:04 · answer #3 · answered by applecheeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, quit reading magazines and watching TV? Just kidding, impossible I know.
What is it that you REALLY rock at? I know theres something, focus on that. OR, maybe you have just amazing eyes, or lips that would make Angelina Jolie weep with envy for.
You're great, just because you dont look like 'other' girls doesnt make you inadequate. They should feel inadequate because they dont look like you!
2006-07-26 15:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by D'oh! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see...
If that's your pic: pretty face, big b**bs, great smile - why do you think you have low esteem? I bet you're just envious of particular traits in other girls. It's not uncommon for people to compare themselves to others and wish for what they don't have. I think we all do that.
Cheer up - you're a fox!
2006-07-26 15:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by Tim B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How low can your self esteem really be if you apparently feel confident and attractive enough to use an arguably flamboyant and posed photograph of yourself as your ID?
2006-07-26 15:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by annetacular 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By your avatar your not a bad looking person theres no reason why you should compare yourself to others YOU be the person you are. Have grace in GOD first and grace in yourself ALWAYS what others think really has no Bering on you!!!
2006-07-26 15:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did before.. I just started doing things I was good at like sports for instance. And I started doing better in school so seeing good grades coming back made me happier.
2006-07-26 14:58:59 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have loose sex with every guy you can. Use this physical contact and intimacy to bolster your weak self-esteem. You can find your happiness through others.
2006-07-26 15:56:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new group of friends!
2006-07-26 14:58:56 · answer #10 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋