If men want a woman that is independant then why do you fall for the damsell in distress?

Question

I know alot of male friends that claim to be attracted to and interrested in woman that have their own sense of liberation and dependancy, but they also like to be the breadwinner & the so called man of the house, so how can a woman know if she is crossing the line between being too strong or not strong enough for a man that knows what he wants?

Answer 1

Good question.

The answer is that guys need to be needed. We like being able to take care of you and love you and such. The fine line that guys have to walk is to show you that we love you to pieces, without being total wusses about it.

And the lines to NOT cross are simple. Don't step on his ego. Take good care of it and nurture it. Let him know that you appreciate the things that he does for you and NEVER EVER take it for granted.

Answer 2

You question covers more than one subject:

Men appreciate a woman that is independent because they don't want someone who is always leaning on them for help and decision making.

Men fall for the "damsel in distress" as that is a built in reaction. To help someone weaker and unable to help themselves is a "man" thing.

Men want to be the "breadwinner" and "man of the house" because that is what they have been taught. Man is the Hunter-Gatherer. Woman cooks and raises babies. This concept is going out of style in Western Civilization, fortunately. It is unlike that in the middle east.

A woman will never know if she is crossing the line, between being too strong or not strong enough unless the man becomes uncomfortable if he feels his "manhood" is being taken away from him. Unfortunately, this results in an insecure person becoming abusive.

Answer 3

It's all about the attitude that the woman portrays. Regardless of status or $ they make, if they have a stank attitude its a wrap. It not necessarily that general, meaning rich independent women can still be sweet and respectful of a man making less than them.

Answer 4

I don't know any men who like independent women. Unless by independent you mean does not call all the time...one complaint from most men. But there is something deep in most men that makes them want to be the hero and knight in white Armour.

Answer 5

The trick is for you to know you are independent and intetresting. But let the man feel as if he is in control. Thousands of years of breeding and sculpting the male role model cant be undone in a few decades.

Answer 6

You just got to find the man you're interested in, date, communicate. Learn where each other is coming from what you both can deal with and not deal with. In the end, you'll either figure out that you each can be yourself, or move on from one another with more knowledge and a better ability to interact with the next guy.

Answer 7

Guys are made to lead. We really are, we always need to feel like we're in charge. The Damsel needs to be saved. Yippie, got something to do. The independent part comes when we're out, you know, slaying dragons and stuff, that's when we need to know that our castle (and kids) are safe with you at home! See, we're not hard to figure out, don't over think us, we sure don't. Good Luck! :)

Answer 8

Why should a woman have to worry about crossing lines? Everyone needs to just be themselves! That way we will know when the right one comes along.

Answer 9

Men like to be the hero once in a while, like in tough situations. But nobody wants to hang around a clingy, dependent, whiner who can't do laundry on her own.

Answer 10

Gee. Let's think. Why would a guy want someone who will make him feel useful and needed over someone who basically makes him feel like the only thing he may be needed for is penis and sperm. Hmmm thats a toughie. You may need to call in MENSA on this one.