How can I put the fire back into my love life?

Question

Ok, me and my man have a great relationship...physical and emotional. We love each other deeply and we've always got each other's backs. We say kind words always, pick at each other, and laugh till we both cry. We're engaged and it's the best love I've ever known. But it seems like we've done it all when it comes to the bedroom. Recently, I tried some new things that he absolutely loved!! But it still seems to get old fast. I want to discover some new ways to keep him begging for more. I love pleasing him, and of course he returns the favor. But what kind of techniques could I use to just make him fall on the floor with desire? C'mon ya'll, share your secrets...10 points goes to the best answer!!!

And if you don't like the question don't answer. It's suppossed to be a surprise....that's the whole point of asking. Thanks!

Answer 1

1) Read books on the topic. Each make lists of things you'd like to try.

2) Consider taking turns - alternate taking the lead every other day. Suggest trying for one week to alternate who leads or defines that day's physical interaction: the timing, frequency, and activities. This will likely do some good and pleasantly surprising things:

- Both people feel like they are getting more of what they want on their days.
- Both people get a "day off" where they don't have to decide what to do.
- Everyday doesn't feel like a compromise, meeting "halfway" but never really getting what either wants.
- Both people are allowed to communicate, taking turns listening and expressing. They know they can both speak and be heard, and that enboldens both men and women.
- You discover your partner is happier because they get what they want and they get to take charge a fair amount of the time. And you might be surprised that their libido increases as a result of them having a fair amount of control over the level & direction of things. With clear license & encouragement to be expressive, their enjoyment of the physical activity may increase.

3) Take massage courses to incorporate a variety of therapeutic massages into your physical interaction. This will be more pleasing in more than purely sexual ways, adding more incentive to spend intimate time together physically. Good luck

Answer 2

Try asking him, not strangers...unless of course you want others' wants in your experiments....