Ive been in and off with him for 7 years. hes 25. with no job, no car, and lives at home with his mom. I love him to death, and wish things could be better. But he is the way he is. There is nothing i can do about it. I dont see him that often either..we talk everyday, but anyways. Last year..I slept with one of his friends for about 5 months. And my boyfrind dosnt know about it. he has his suspisions, but i keep denying it. Tonight My boyfriend and the guy i slept with are hanging out for the first time since everything happend. And they are both going to be drinking. I dont want the guy i slept with too tellmy boyfrend anything. What do you think i should do?? Show up at there house where they are going to be?? Or call the guy i slept with too tell him not too say anything. Or is that too sketchy, help me here..
2006-07-26 06:49:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him.
2006-07-26 06:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by Camaro 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While cheating was wrong, who could blame you!? 25, no job, no car, no nothing, lives with parents! Is he going to school at least? Is he even trying to better himself? This would almost make sense if he was getting his Master's, but if not then this is pure laziness. Honey, I'm sure you're smart and have a good head on your shoulders, so you probably could do better. I understand you love him and all, but look at the future. Do you want to spend the rest of you life with guy? If so, he needs to cowboy up and grow up. Don't call his friend, if the guy tells him you cheated with him, it might just wake up your boyfriend that it's time grow up and take his life and his girlfriend seriously. If it leads to that, ok. If it leads to you breaking up, there are more fish in the sea and you can find better. May sound harsh, but it's true. Good luck!
2006-07-26 14:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by marisha z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, what webs we weave! This is like a 3 ring circus going on here. Well I can tell you what is going on, not that you are going to like what I have to say, but here it is and I'm not being nasty or rude, just stating the fact of what you said in your question.
1. You are/were cheating on your boyfriend anyway you want to look at it. If you wasn't happy with him, and I can clearly see why you wouldn't be happy with a bum like that. You should have cut it off with him, then found someone else that would make you happy. Cheating on someone is not the answer!
2.For the fact that your boyfriend is 25 and still lives at home, I can live with that. It wouldn't bother me in the least bit if my kids wanted to live at home with me forever, I know I am different about my kids than any other parents, but there again, I do expect them to work and help pay the bills. He is not doing any of this, he is a BUM no way around it. A lazy, low life, bum that has no respect for himself or anybody else.He is not only using you but his own parents as well. He would be history.
3.As for this so-called friend of his that you slept with, he wasn't no friend of his because a real friend would not betray a real friend by sleeping with their bf/gf in the first place.In my books he is trash as well, for sleeping with what is suppose to be his friends girlfriend.
If he does get drunk and talks, oh well, what goes around comes around.
2006-07-26 14:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a minor suggestion but i would fess up to you BF now or it will most likely hurt more if he hears it from his buddy. Since you don't see him that much and there doesn't seem to be much of a relationship there what good would it be to keep things going the way they are. He will find out sooner or later, it might be best for him to find out sooner then later. If he blows his stack then it is understandable. You need to be honest with him it means much more then him getting it from a drunk friend. If you told the friend to not say anything, if he gets drunk enough no matter what was said to him will not matter and all the lies withh come lcean in the end. Just be honest and deal with the consequences.
2006-07-26 13:57:00 · answer #4 · answered by miss_blk_kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that u do nothing if your boyfriend is already suspicious and u hang out with them he is going to be watching your every move and just because of what happened your going to be nervous and u may act a little funny. As far as the other guy I wouldn't worry to much I don't think he wants your boyfriend to know anything either and especially if your boyfriend can kick his BUTT!!
2006-07-26 14:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by bubbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my fiance cheated (both times) on me she told my brother first. Still, she said nothing. She told me about 2 months after I got deployed. I prefer the truth. No matter how the relationship was, you were still together. It might hurt him, but he should appreciate the honesty. You should has fessed up after it happened. Also try am tell him why you did it. Maybe he might change. Either way you go tell him or let him find out on his own, its going to rough on you
2006-07-26 14:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by rednck_soldier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you have as it is made one mistake by cheating on your b/f and are about to make another one by trying to hide things from him...........have you imagined what will your b/f go thru after knowing what you did with this another guy and that too from that it himself?
if you were really sorry about it,you should have confessed it to your b/f yourself and won his trust rather than he knowing it from someone else?
i guess just leave things as they are and let them take its own course and you'll have to face the consequences....but trust me you dont deserve to be with either of them cos you are a very dangerous person,as you cant keep up the trust in a relationship which is the key factor of any relation..........
2006-07-26 13:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by countrygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK YOU SHOULD LET EVERYTHING WORK OUT FOR ITSELF. IF THEY ARE GOING TO BE DRINKING, YOU'RE NOT GOING TO BE ABLE TO CONTROL WHAT COMES OUT OF THE FRIEND'S MOUTH BECAUSE HE'S GOING TO BE DRUNK. YOU CAN SHOW UP AT THE HOUSE, BUT YOUR MAN IS GOING TO BE LIKE WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE? ALSO, THAT MIGHT NOT BE A GOOD IDEA EITHER BECAUSE IF YOU SHOW UP, WHAT IF THE FRIEND SAYS SOMETHING LIKE HEY REMEMBER THAT TIME WE HAD SEX OR SOMETHIN OF THAT NATURE??? SO I WOULD JUST GO WITH THE FLOW CUZ SOONER OR LATER, IT WILL HIT THE FAN.
2006-07-26 14:02:30 · answer #8 · answered by shady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about the guy who has no job no car and lives with his mother at 25 the relationship is not going to get any further than it is
2006-07-26 13:55:21 · answer #9 · answered by shakerrawashington@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this , but this guy is going absolutely nowhere in life.Sounds like fate may be intervening on your behalf. Let them get trashed together, and see what happens.
2006-07-26 13:59:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy has nothing going for him anyway why are you still with him?
2006-07-26 13:54:13 · answer #11 · answered by Domo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋