Geeze... it seems like parents are always complaining that they're exhausted, they have no time to themselves, that parenting is a thankless job, that everything is sooooo expensive etc.-- in that case, why have kids, if they make it out to be so horrible?
I plan to have children, but I won't make these kids feel guilty for being born... "Oh, you cost me so much... I have no life of my own anymore, blah blah blah..." I will be grateful that I can have kids!
2006-07-26 06:45:52 · 20 answers · asked by Quang 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Alot of these people either had kids as teenagers and so they are still trying to be akid themselves instead of growing up. Or they had unplanned (unwanted) pregnancies and thankfully didnt abort but were selfish and didn't give them to a family that would love them. Or it could be as simple as they thought they wanted kids and then after realizing what goes into being a parent and feel its too late. I feel the same as you I want a kid so bad and when i finally get one im not going to complain about it
2006-07-26 06:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by Trouble 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Kids are alot of work, and yes you are tired all time, just think home many parents have a full-time job, when they get home, they start doing everything their kids want and then take care of the house. As a parent you have no time to yourself, until they go to bed, and if you have small children, they don't go to bed easy or stay in bed. I am a stay at home mother of 2 daughters ages 6 and 1, and they keep me moving from the time they get up, till the time they go to bed, and I have to do housework somewhere in between. I love my kids more than life itself and I would trade them for anything in the world.
FYI: Parents never tell their kids any other crap you listed, if they do they aren't very good parents in the first place.
When you have kids of your own, then you will understand, what parents mean when they say things like that, until then, you will never understand.
2006-07-26 09:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by sunflowerlizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that a lot of people take for granted the ease of having a child. There are so many people out there that cannot have children naturally. Also, there are too many couples out there who have a baby to "fix" their marraige or relationship. These people are clearly not ready to be parents. All I know is that no matter how exhausted, worn-out, etc.. I am, I would never blame my child. And its all worth it when i walk in the door at the end of the day and get a great big hug.
2006-07-26 09:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree. And on top of all the complaining these same parents dont even take care of thier children properly. I understand that a lot of children are unplanned pregancys but why not put the child up for adoption for someone who really wants kids. My pregnancy was unplanned too but I would never make my daughter feel quilty for being born.
2006-07-26 06:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by ashez 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I love being a parent, my kids are wonderful people that I enjoy being with. But everyone has bad days. Yesterday I was very close to calling my babysitter just so that I could have a nap! Just because someone has a complaint one day doesn't mean that they feel like that all the time.
2006-07-26 07:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by PLDFK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, kids are a whole lot more demanding then people think. All day you have to worry about them, care for them, they dont listen and they whine and you dont get any rest....you dont get sleep....alot of times when you go to eat they wake up or they decide to get fussy....it really is hard and it can be pretty annoying. Its a job that you dont really get a break from. BUt when they give you a little look, or when they sleep or it can be just a really cute thing they say...its all worth it.
2006-07-26 06:52:49 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what goes on behind closed doors. You are missing the snuggles, smiles and sillyness that makes it all worth while. All parents compain at some point about their kids. Neither are perfect.
2006-07-26 07:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by Beth W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with chris even tho i am not a parent, most parents regret getting pregnant at an early age and start to take it out on the children, which it's NOT THEIR FAULT, they didnt ask to be born. other parents are just so tired that they take it out on the kids.
2006-07-26 06:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoever these people are that you are talking to must not be very good parents. I mean, it does take its toll sometimes and you get very tired, but I would never not want to be a parent. I love being a mommy and I would never make my child feel bad for me being tired. To say that it is a thankless job is so incorrect. Seeing my daughter's beautiful smile everyday is thanks enough for me! :)
2006-07-26 06:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by rylies.mommy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel i never had a life until i had my kids. Yes it is exhausting but also rewarding aswell. I love being a mom
2006-07-26 06:56:11 · answer #10 · answered by cnkbrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋