Is she cheating on me, if so what should I do?

Question

I went to bring my girlfriend of one year flowers and when I came up to her parking lot I seen a guy get out of her car. I went to the door and he answered. He said she was in the shower and she would be out in a minute. He said he was just a friend and he was not having sex with her. He said come back in ten minutes and we will talk about it. I came back and they did not answer. This was at about 11:30 pm. She called me back all pissed off wanting to know why I was at her house. So I told her and then she wanted to break up with me. I love her so much, I have given her a ring and on many occasions we have talked about marriage. What the hell am I suppose to do?

Answer 1

Clearly she isn't returning mutual feelings of love, or marriage. She is sending you a very strong signal/message by her immaturity in her actions. It may be very hard for you to move on at first, but in time you will see it was well worth it. Irony usually plays itself out in the long run, so later on down the road when you are doing great in your life, you can sit back and have the last laugh, so to speak.

Good Luck in your future endeavors. God Bless.

Answer 2

Come on now, I know love is blind, but don't be a fool. You ask, is she cheating on you...the answer...ABSOLUTELY! If she valued or respected you at all, there would be no need for her to be in such close proximity with another man, other than a family member. She told you she did not want to be with you by saying she wanted to break up. Why would you want to be with someone who does not respect or value as an import part of their life? I know it is difficult and hurtful to accept, especially when you really care for someone, but the fact of the matter is, she is not that into you! You sound like a pretty desent guy, move on and find someone that can appreciate the love, kindness and caring that you have to give. Don't waste it! It costs too much!

Answer 3

If you caught her cheating and if you marry her and be with her all your life, is there any reason that it cannot happen again?
What would you do if it happens again?
What if she gives birth, you are so happy that you have your own family but in the end finds out that the kid is not yours - What will you do?

Man! Ask yourself, if you are so sure then why not give her a chance, be miserable and be with her. Accept her for what she is and what she does. Not buts and No ifs.

If you are in doubt don’t want to be miserable out of love, forget her no matter how it hurts and sooner or later the right person would be there for you. Unexpectedly!
GOOD LUCK! Choices! Life is all about CHOICES! – “as friend quotes”

Answer 4

AAAHHHHH that is so romantic. Even if she was mad at you, u still love her. Just tell her that you wanna talk. And tell her that if it was u, she would want an explanation. You love her and she has to love you. I am only 13 , but i have had bf's that have cheated on me. I should know. So take my advice , if she dosen't wanna explain, then ask for the ring back!!!! Tell her how much u love her, even though she SHOULD already know. You arer just trying to protect her. And if so she and her 2 player azz guy can get to steppin. It may hurt at first. But u should love yourself first. If she loves you then no matter what eeven if you break up with her there is always room to be friends.

Answer 5

Hmmm... It doesn't sound good. Not good at all. It's hard to answer questions such as these because we weren't there, and yeah.

All I can say is that I, personally, wouldn't trust this. It may be hard, but I would probably break up with her. You'll just keep wondering if she's cheating on you all the time now. There are more girls out there. Just my personal opinion... I'd get out of the relationship.

Answer 6

Don't do anything rash. If you can talk to her and find out what's going on. Don't accuse her of anything...then she goes on the defensive and you won't get anywhere. Also are you telling us the whole story? Were you bringing flowers because you messed up?

If you were just bringin flowers why would she be mad at you for showing up at her apartment? That's something you need to ask yourself. In the end would you want to be with someone who would want to break up with you for bringing flowers. Or is she breaking up with you because she feels guilty about something or in fact doesn't love you. See, there's just too many possiblities. You need to talk to her. Don't talk to her just to get her back. Talk to her to find out what's going on. You do deserve that. But if she's not willing...move on. You tried your best.

Answer 7

You need to leave her alone. That guy is a punk for telling you to come back and then not answering the door. She shouldn't have a guy in the house when she is in the shower regardless because she does not know what he will do, it is not safe and she is not respecting you at all.

Answer 8

Your love appears to be a bit one-sided. If she got pissed off, and wanted to break-up with you over coming to see her ( while someone else was there!) i would think she may just be .....taking advantage. There are many wonderful women out there, give it a shot. Look around, play the field. Good-Luck.

Answer 9

Let her go, she's not worth it. If the guy was just a friend to her you would have been knew him and he wouldn't have told you to come back, what type of **** is that. I'm sorry to say but the tramp is cheating on you, find some one else that's worth your time and flowers.

Answer 10

dude just leave her shes trash. dont marry a girl like that. from what you said shes a sleezebag. is that the type of woman you want to marry? much less mother your children? i'd hope not. that would be a life sentence, not a happy marriage.