Why can't a girl who isn't that pretty, but has a great personality get a guy?

Answer 1

Who says that they can't get a guy? The majority of the population is not what we as society think of as "pretty", but that doesn't mean that they haven't found a person that loves them and wants to share their life with them. The thing that you have to realize is that the type of people who only want someone because of the way that they look are not the people that you should associate with. They are shallow and typically hypocritical. Remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and what one person thinks is unattractive, another may think is the most beautiful creature on earth.

Answer 2

Because the world is focused on looks and bodies - it's the first thing that is seen and if there is nothing to stop the eye, it will move right on. However, look around and just notice how MOST OF THE PEOPLE IN THE WORLD ARE AVERAGE in looks and most of them are coupled and in relationships. So it doesn't seem, does it, that not being pretty spells spinstership for a "Plain Jane" now does it ?

A plain girl has to emphasize her assets - be at a good weight, dress very well for her body type, wear the right colors, make sure she is well-groomed, ensure her hair is coiffed well. And, more importantly, she has to concentrate on making herself happy as a person because a person who is complete in and of themselves (and is not desperately waiting or looking for a a relationship) will attract people.

While she is working on herself in these aspects, people around her will mature and grow up. When that all comes together, she will have a great guy fall right into her lap.

Answer 3

Because you think your not that pretty. Guys like all sorts of women. Some guys love fat girls they like big butts. Lots of guys are not as worried about looks as you might think. They want a personality. The problem is your confidence. I have a nephew with no confidence. It goes the same with boys. If I had his looks I'd nail everything! Everything! This guy is amazing looking Puerto Rican/ Argentinian man in his early 20's. As it is because I have the confidence I get many women yet I am older 53 and I don't look my age. But when I was young before I was 26 I had no confidence. This changed at 26 and I became confident because I grew out of my shyness. A little tip confidence is everything if you don't have it pretend your acting and act like it. Imitate a few stars. I used to ask what would Bogart do?Or what would Paul Newman do or Sean Connery as James Bond do? You have to find your own hero to fall into. Confidence is this important. Think about this axiom. Money is actually just paper. It has no more value than a sheet of toilet paper. True it actually does not exist. Why do we value it? Because we have confidence in it.Your sure that if you hand the grocer a twenty you will get 20 dollars worth of something you want and he believes the same. Try handing him Mexican money or confederate money or Monopoly money. No confidence in it. Money is confidence and getting guys is using confidence to seduce them act like you are not that interested in them and make them chase you.

Answer 4

I know the feeling but it's all in the way you carry yourself. Your personality is great but what exactly are you doing to catch attention? Being shy and modest is not going help. Become a flirt and do no be afraid to say what's on your mind, most guys don't know what to say or approach a girl, so help them out. Be careful though and do not go overboard. Another thing I learned to do was buy clothes that best fitted me and made me feel sexy. A nice outfit can bring the flirt out of you. You are beautiful inside and outside but you have to believe it cause no one else will. Also love will find you when it's time when it's least expected but for the mean time have fun.

Answer 5

Sweetie, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There is somebody for everybody. This statement is true. I see women I think are ugly with men all the time it's how they carry themselves. I'll give you an example: Have you ever seen a man you would rate a 3 or 4 and then see him later with a nice outfit, new shoes and the best smelling Cologne. It will bring him up to at least a 7! A guy should like you for you, skinny girls get fat. People change! I wouldn't stop dating my boyfriend if he lost arm. I'm not with him for his body, it's for the way he treats me. And your going to meet someone who loves you inside out. I promise!!

Answer 6

I know you've heard this a thousand times before, just like me, but not all guys fall in love with beautiful girls. They like to look at them, but they don't always love them. Many men like normal women. If not, then why would so many "not-pretty" women be dating or married?

I was just like you. I prayed for years that I would meet the 1 man who was right for me. I wondered why I was alone and everyone else was a part of a couple. I did find the guy that was right for me---I was 34 when I met him and 35 when I married him. All those years of waiting I wondered the same thing you are and I didn't believe it when people said it would happen when I least expected it to.

So, from my personal experience, my advice to you is this:

Be yourself. Be patient. The right guy will come along and notice you for who you are. In the meantime, live your life to the fullest. It's what we do in the "meantime" that makes us who and what we are---the "meantime" is what makes up the majority of our life.

Answer 7

Most guys in this world always judge the outside before even considering finding out more about the person. Indecent guys care more about arousing their loins than their intellect, it's the sad truth. However, there are the few who aren't like that so don't give up all together, not all men should be bashed just because of the majority that are jerks.

Answer 8

Girls who arent that pretty but have great personalities CAN get guys, just not the guys you seem to want. The guys you're noticing are probably immature and shallow and therefore what they care about mostly is looks. Try meeting some guys that aren't shallow and immature, who are intelligent and have some personalities themselves, and you'll eventually find one who likes you for YOU.

Answer 9

To me most guy who only likes a girl beceause she is pretty and not look at her personality, that kind of relationship won't last long, I believe you will find a guy who will look at your personality will have a great relationship with you, but you have to wait and see, becaeuse I am doing the same too!

Answer 10

My guess is because this girl PERCEIVES herself as not that pretty and therefore ..... holds back. Guys are not just into gorgeous girls all the time. Really. Once you feel better about yourself and you let YOU shine as a person, others will notice too (even the guys). Hang in there. You just need some self confidence.