Why do parents shelter there sons or daughters in there teens?

Question

I hate it when parents don't let their childern be kids and learn things. It bothers me that parents don't talk to their childern about sex, drugs, and other importnat issues that kids,teens and young adults go through. But on the other hand, how young or old should a child be before he/she learns this stuff. Are we affarid if we tell them to ealry that they might do it? I know I'm saying this now (Im not a parent) but I will want to tell my childern early in there life about sex, drinking and drugs....and maybe they will make there own decsion.
Also one more point, I beleive that parents should teach their kids how to make choices and understand the concepts of right and wrong, morals and values........and hopefully all that teaching will help the kid to make the right descion when confronted with these issues.
WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THIS ?

Answer 1

You are absolutely right. The children first learn from the home environment as to what is sex, drugs and alcohol as much as the moral values from the behaviour of the elders at home. The parents should know how tactfully information on these important aspects of social and individual life be imparted to their children. But above all, it is parental love and care for the children that make or want of it that mars the future of the children.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I agree 100%, parents need to allow their children to grow up and sex, drugs, and drinking are part of the world. People choose to avoid or accept these things. I have seen "adults" who are complete social basket-cases because of over-protective parents. Better for the children to learn on their own and become independent and strong.

Knowlegde and understanding will only help in making productive and informed life decisions. Parents have to ask themselves "where do I want my children getting information on these issues?"

Answer 4

There is a difference between sheltering and protecting. I am not sure how old you are but once you are a parent........it will all be very clear to you. There are developmental stages that need to be taken into consideration, child's temperments, the need to know, etc. Being a parent isn't easy and any good parent just wants what is best for their child.

Answer 5

I agree. I don't like parents who shelter their kids as welll because in the long run, it does more harm than good. It's best to tell them what you know (sex,violence,drugs,etc) when you feel that your children are ready and can comprehend somewhat. So as they grow up they will take the knowledge that you have given them so they can make the best decisions in life and know what's right from wrong.

Answer 6

When I was younger, throughout my teen years I didn't know things...and was sheltered althrough high school finally when got to college had to learn things the hard way for myself. I do believe that someone needs to learn for themselves although many parents do try to keep us sheltered.

Yes we may go through some potentionally bad situations in order to learn these lessons, but some things you need to learn from experiences. If i have learned from my parents at a younger age some of these experiences I may not have explored into though.

Answer 7

I can only think of one reason (though i dont understand it) is they don't want their kids making the same mistake. I know my son (who is 15 now) saw me make plenty of mistakes doing drugs (i am ashamed of that) and drunk. He is a great kid and knows the dangers of all that. I would like more parents to be open but not act as a friend.

Answer 8

I think you are right but the parent simply cares about the kids and that's why they do the things they do.They love their kids.They should talk to their kids about the bad stuff when they are about 13.Just stress to the kids that they have the right to make their own decisions and mistakes but don't do something bad purposefully.Be careful.

Answer 9

i agree in a sense

i think it depends on the maturity of child, depending on when to do discuss these things

my kid is 6 and she knows not to drink or smoke due to today's world she has seen these things and asked questions

we cant put a blind fold over their faces - cause someone else will lift it and it will be the wrong person- and you have not prepared your children

Answer 10

They do this out of a misguided attempt to prevent their children from doing things. Unfortunately they end up doing quite the opposite. My children and I talk about everything. If they do go out and do something stupid, at least they have made an educated choice and they have no one to blame but themselves.