do those who have been involved in so many relationships make good husbands?

Question

am 23years and i have had 8 relationships so far. am worried i might not make a good husband

Answer 1

A marriage relationship is only peripherally like a romantic relationship. The expectations, troubles, and rewards are really very different. This is why so many wonderful romantic relationships fall apart when marriage occurs - marriage changes the relationship's nature!

Bottom line: You can only poorly judge your suitability as a husband by the standards of your suitability as a boyfriend. I would say that caring about it (as you seem to) is a good sign in any case!

Answer 2

By relationships, do you mean long-term, monogomous?

What have you learned from these relationships? Being a good husband has more to do with how much you internalize the lessons you've learned in all your relationships (mother, father, sister, brother, girl/boyfriends, etc.). Quantity is not necessarily a hindrance or an asset, but by having more than one relationship, one could argue that the opportunity for insight would be greater. On the other hand, if you are superficial and only get involved in relationships to satisfy your baser desires, then you will probably be prone to make the same mistakes over and over.
This can also be a very unsafe path to go down.
What do you think are the qualities that make a good husband? Make a list and see how many of those things by which you live.

Answer 3

Having many relationships doesn't make you a bad candidate for marriage.
Now, if we could go into details of what type of relationships, then we'd be in business here.
If you have a myriad girlfriends during your life, but make no commitments to any, and you have some independence as part of that, you are on your way to a good marriage, which will grow from one of those relationships.
If you are getting married every year and have kids all over the place, then you are an irresponsible SOB whose genitals should be chopped off. But that is not your case, right?

Answer 4

I believe you can still be a good husband. Each relationship is supposed to teach you about how to be a better partner in the next one. Relationships help you to learn more about who you are (your likes/dislikes, strengths/weaknesses, passions/pet peeves, compatible personalities, etc...)

I would not want to marry a man with a limited relationship history or a man that has been unable to sustain at least one or two long-term healthy relationships. (The kind where the ex-girlfriends don't hate him).

Answer 5

I would guess that if you are concerned about being a good husband, then you will probably be a good husband. You're past relationships, although learning experiences, have no bearing on the subject.

Answer 6

I think it depends on the person.
Experience is the best teacher. You learn something from each relationship that will make you a better husband once you finally settle down.

Answer 7

I was with 103 women before I met My wife . . . just took that long to finally get it right for Me.

And I have to admit, all that additional knowledge that I started out with helps me a lot in my marriage. I have a better idea what she's thinking, what she wants me to do. I know enough to eliminate small problems before they become big ones.

I'd say it was a good thing you are learning so much, as long as you are paying attention and learning.

Answer 8

It depends on whether or not you have learned anything from those relationships. The more you've learned and the more you've experienced, the better you will be able to handle the commitment of a permanent relationship.

Answer 9

No. Nothing to worry. I know many of my friends who had many pre-marital affairs, once they settled down with one wife, they have been very honest and successful husbands. What is important is to invoke confidence in the partner by genuine concern and care for her.

Answer 10

Of course, they just haven't found the one that will be honest at first and be who they are at first. If I'd have known my first two wives were liars and were going to keep sleeping with everybody, I wouldn't have gone through the trouble.