I tried everything, but there's no way i can convince this person to do something to cure herself. She hates the ideea of going to doctors. And there are moments when I can't even talk to her. Sometimes I feel like she hates me, but then i see that she dislikes everything that surrounds her. She dislikes her own life. She avoids talking about her problems. Sometimes it seems that she doesn't even want to solve her problems, that she doesn't want to cure, that she wants to suffer and cry. She keeps on telling me that she feels alone all the time, but when someone is talking to her she tries to make that person go away; she seems to avoid people. Now it seems that her only joy is playing some computer games online; but she stays in front of the comp or the tv all her free time. She doesn't seem to have any power at all to change all this. And I don't know how to help her and this feeling is killing me. How can I make someone love its own life? How can I make someone enjoy being alive?
2006-07-26 05:57:08 · 11 answers · asked by Iri 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i've been there. you just have to be her friend, through thick and thin, and maybe she'll open up to you
she may have a medical reason for depression, too, which would actually keep her from wanting to get better. depression isn't just in your head. it's a real illness. have her checked out by a doctor
2006-07-26 06:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by Travis R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, when a person is very depressed, they don't want any help because they feel that being sad is being true, and to be happy would be a lie. I would try not to let her get you down. Don't bring up her depression, just try and let her forget about it so she can have a good time doing something fun. Take her to a movie or something, just anything that she likes that would make her feel special and cared for.
2006-07-26 06:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a little friendly love note each day. Make sure she knows your phone number and ask her to call you when she feels especially lonely. Stay away from her for several days and perhaps she will miss your concern. Keep the notes going out to her. Finally, there are some things you cannot control. You are not responsible for another's actons. Make sure you are not being manipulated, but keep on with notes of kindness. If she starts to come around, offer to go with her to see a counselor.
2006-07-26 06:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say if this person isn't a direct family member your better off being nice and leave her to her own self.
In some cases you can have someone committed for observation in a state mental hospital. But you would need to speak to a Lawyer, Doctor Or possibly the Police. I'm not sure which.
good luck....
2006-07-26 06:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by Scott 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change her and her way of thinking trust me..I suffer the same way..feeling lonely and worthless. She has to want to change hun..You have to be there for her through thick and thin like Travis said (Up on top there)..He has been there cus he's my friend and I have gone through this shxt all my life and he's always been there ..well not always there was a couple of years where he ddin'ttalk too me and it made it that much worse on me ..soo don't leave her let her come to u to talk there will be a day where she wants to committ suicide don't let her thats what true friends are for...!!!!!!! could you give the points to Travis ?
2006-07-26 13:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE DO THIS! THERE IS SOMETHING YOU CAN DO! How could you let your friend feel sorry for herself like that. Tell her to stand on her own two feet and take action. Tell her to forget about depression and do something. Tell her that if she was really your friend she would get off of her soap box and do something with her life. If she is not willing to do that for herself, then at least she will do it for you. If she does not do it for you, then she is not your friend, and you don't need her anymore. If she is not willing to forget about her own needs and self problems for the compassion of a friend then does that make her a friend? Do this and I can gaurantee that she will get over her depression. Please do this. Write back to me and tell me how it works out.
2006-07-26 06:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remain her friend, keep talking to her, wait. That's the best for both of you. When you feel discouraged and that all is lost, find the strength to fight this feeling of futility. If you are religious or spiritual, meditate, chant, pray for her. And continue to live your life. Don't let her sink you. Don't give up.
2006-07-26 06:35:58 · answer #7 · answered by robert r 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help her. I understand your feelings and how painful this is for you. All you can do is monitor her and if you feel she is reaching a point where she might be dangerous to herself
then you need to talk to whoever is responsible for her and tell them our fears and her symptoms and suggest that they get her help whether she wants it or not--in other words, that they intervene.
2006-07-26 06:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some people who are addicted to being miserable. All you can do is offer suggestions for her to get help and then distance yourself from your friend.
Sounds like she is doing this to get attention....."No one talks to me." Then when they talk to her, "No! Go away!"
Whatever. You've done all you can. You need to back off now and not let her suck you in and down....before you know it, YOU'LL be depressed.
2006-07-26 06:07:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can't make them do anything they have to want ti on thier own. you can be there for them. if sucide is ever threatened then call emergency help instantly.. no jokes with that and if you want be like lets go out to lunch and drag them to a doctors.. just be prepared for them to be mad for quite some time
2006-07-26 06:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by KT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋