I'm the kind of person who has a really hard time controling his anger. Nothing I've tried works, nothing anyone recoomends work, not even the medication my parents put me on. I'm the kind of person who will go off at the smallest insult, and then lash out like a tiger at the person in question.
This is keeping my parents from letting me take martial arts lessons (which I really want to do)
How can I control my overpowering anger?
2006-07-26 05:47:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
gooroosfrabaaa. LOL. If you feel angry walk away and cool down. Talk the problem out loud. you may look crazy but hey as long as you dont start answering back you'll be fine.
2006-07-26 05:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Direct the anger at yourself. Bang your head on the wall enough times ....you'll stop. What's your problem? You wanna fight with everybody? There's always someone out there that can beat you senseless. Physically and Mentally. So chill out Dude. You really don't want to hurt anybody much less yourself. If you act responsible then you can join the martial arts. It's called an art cause you need DISCIPLINE. without this you'll be considered a nut and probably end up regretting it.
2006-07-26 12:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by tegodreaux 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could seek therapy and counseling. Learn or train yourself to take three deep breaths whenever you feel yourself losing control. The important news here is that almost any martial arts studio will stress discipline and kick you out if you can not control your anger in class. That means, as annoying as it sounds, your parents are right in their decision. You'd just get kicked out and lose your money.
Strangely enough, it may help to check out www.tonystewart.com since he had to go through anger management and almost lost a multimillion dollar job due to the same issues. He has had some articles and blogs on his experiences that may help.
2006-07-26 12:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by But why is the rum always gone? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger is normally the product of frustration.
You are obviously young and just as obviously you do not have much control over your life at the present time.
You need to try and understand what your frustrations are. When you get angry, wait till you cool down then try and work out what it was that got to you.
Try and do a few things to earn a little respect from others.
Basically you need to do a lot of little things to build your self respect and start to control your life. Until you do this others will control you.
Your frustration is with yourself so get some control of yourself and learn to understand things and deal with them and you will gain in stature and loose the frustration leading to the loss of the anger.
Good luck.
2006-07-26 12:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i do agree mostly with all the suggestion given above definately this are quite effective and time tested ones if you allow me i can suggest that any change of behavior pattern in you has to dealt with the root cause and here anger is habit of mind which is programmed to behave in particular manner to change this habit definitely you have to put some amount of effort if you seriously interested to overcome anger. As your mind is programmed with faulty software i suggest following practice to replace with the original one.
get up early in morning say 5 am or latest by 6 am after having your brush and bath as you wish sit in a quite place and recall the scene for few second and see how you could have acted differently instead of getting angry when you are able to emerge the right method, say to self from today onwards i will act in this humble and gentle manner repeat this exercise for 10 to 15 minutes daily and when anger strike try to emerge the scene of right behavior i guarantee you in no time, all your friend and parent will notice and reward you with saying you have change is,t that easy and fantastic.
so get along kick that anger out of you. and be angel
2006-07-26 14:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by dubai chaser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a underlining reason that your not talking about. Something or someone is pissing you off and you feel you can't talk to them about it...so you take it out on everyone else. You might just look into buying a notebook and write down everything that is bothering you. Getting it off your chest might just help you figure out why you feel you need to get angry. Your parents might want to send you to Martial arts training for the discipline.
2006-07-26 12:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by SHASHA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy worked for me.
You have to find out the reason behind the constant anger and deal with it.
Exercise also helps release the anger in a healthier way.
2006-07-26 12:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by Dennis Fargo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every morning, your first thoughts are important. Try "today, I am going to try to improve my attitude." Tomorrow, "I will try to do better today than I did yesterday." And, ask your parents to talk to a martial arts trainer to get his opinion about your taking classes. Perhaps if you change your ability to control yourself, they will come around on the martial arts deal.
2006-07-26 13:09:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe start by asking for a gentler entry into eastern arts, something that involves meditation. You may find that it helps calm you down and eventually makes learning the more aggressive sports easier.
2006-07-26 12:53:13 · answer #9 · answered by Liz F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe martial arts would help, maybe also some talk therapy to have someone help find out what is behind it also learn to know when you feel to start getting angry.. count to 10 before you move at all as soon as the feeling occurs.
2006-07-26 12:51:16 · answer #10 · answered by KT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋