My live-in boyfriend of the last two years and me recently split (He was going to visit another girl he met on the internet.) We're talking about getting back together (he says we're together, just not "officially." that this is more like a break) Should I give him another chance, I do love him, but how do I learn to trust him again???? I mean, he went from talking about buying me a ring to seeing other people behind my back within a time frame of two months! Any advice you guys have would be great, I'm really confused. I love him but dont want my heart to get broken again. Thanx ya'll.
2006-07-26 05:47:00 · 11 answers · asked by sweetie187 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love only works if both people love each other. Loving someone that doesn't love you back will hurt you. If he loved you he wounld't cheat on you. Cheating, lying and stealing are signs of a bad person....
Find youself a good person. Life is far too short to waste time. Also, be true to yourself, don't change for someone else
2006-07-26 06:01:56 · answer #1 · answered by Sir Greggath 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Like so many other women in like situations you state so confidently that "I do love him". What exactly is it about this guy that you love? Is it the way he treats you? The way he make you feel secure and treasured? The way he works to keep you?
Unfortunately, like most women, you are most likely in love with some figment of what "could be". Understand, you dreams are not bad, but also understand that they are not reality.
Take a look at what you are getting from this guy. Is this what you want the rest of your life (or even for the rest of the week for that matter)? You WILL NOT change him no matter how much yo want to make things work.
As a secondary matter in this particualr situation but nevertheless critically important point, please consider NEVER living with a guy again outside of marriage. I know that it sounds so "romantic" and all of that but women see a live-in situation so very differently than guys do! Most guys don't feel the need to "buy the cow if they are getting the milk for free". Sadly, if a guy is getting sex why dose he need to marry the gal?
The truth can be rough and I hope that this has not been to difficult for you to understand.
Best wishes.
2006-07-26 13:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by RunningUte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks. You're not going to like this, but I think you should move on without this guy. Here he was going behind your back to see other women...would he have ever told you this if you hadn't found out? Probably not. He wanted to have his cake and eat it too. And if you take him back, he'll have that. Why should he get to enjoy the frosting? He doesn't even deserve the crumbs. You might love him, but right now, you've got to love yourself. He disrespected you and now you can't trust him at all. Relationships are founded on trust and communication and if you don't have that, you can't have a good relationship. Stop wasting your energy on this guy who's obviously not good enough for you. Someone better is out there, I promise. Good luck.
2006-07-26 12:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First if you are considering getting back with him, you need to either forgive and forget or don't even bother getting back with him. Holding a grudge when entering into a relationship is not healthy and it's doomed to fail. No one likes having things thrown in their face when an argument or disagreement accrues. Whether he changes or not, I don't know, but it needs to come from within him. 1st time shame on him. 2nd time shame on you.
2006-07-26 13:27:56 · answer #4 · answered by Building Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont take him back. If he was looking on the internet to meet other women he will look again. It had to hurt the first time dont let there be a second.
2006-07-26 12:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by SunshineSparkles1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i think you need to tell him that you guys should start all over and get to know each other better and see where it goes from there and if he cheats again just tell him that your not gonna put up with it anymore girl yuo deserve better there are other fish in the sea Good Luck!
2006-07-26 12:53:52 · answer #6 · answered by darlingcuttiehottie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick em to the crub he left you for someone else. why deal with that Drama. ALl its going to do is frustrate you and there is no more trust in your relationship. find someone that'll treat you right
2006-07-26 12:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an *** who doesn't deserve someone as loyal and loving as you. He's messing around, and that's not cool. I know you say you love him, and I believe you, but you honestly shouldn't have to love someone like that. I would find someone else if I were you.
2006-07-26 12:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by Allison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you can't trust him. Never, ever.
You're not "together". It just didn't work out quite the way he planned with this other chick and you are the backup plan.
Dump his sorry butt.
2006-07-26 12:52:08 · answer #9 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gal i feel sorry for you but he got bored :(...he most likely won't care as he did once for you.
2006-07-26 12:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by Lone Silver Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋