Is this gang activity? please help?

Question

My 14yr. old has recently broken in a home and stole loaded pistols, liquor, pills, jewelry. This kid has NEVER caused any trouble at home or school, he's on honor roll, honor society, and is polite, respectful.....And he says he did this alone, and won't give a reason as to why he did it, or what he was gonna do with the guns. Police say sounds like he got mixed up w/a gang. Anyone have any insight into this????

I just realized the past couple months he's been wearing a pink bandana hanging out of his back pocket. Is this a gang sign?

He said he joined a gang during the school year, and got scared and got out 4 days later...do they let you just "get out"?

We took him to the police, and have already sent him off for mental evaluation.

Answer 1

Yes there's a problem here. Congratulations in identifying it. The best time and best chance to make right and set strait is now. For the love of your boy. Be firm and tough. Expect to feel guilty when you're being tough. Expect to feel bad. But know that you are doing him a service that will eventually save his life. Good luck. You can beat this by becomming extremely, expremely tough. Do not ever, ever bail him out. If you discover he's into drugs, put him in rehab or a psyciatric ward and allow him to face his problem. Stay on him like a hawk. Big changes for him at home. It should no longer be comfortable for him to engage in anything other than homework, scrutiny of friends, staying in touch with teachers. Get the school involved or even police if nessesary.

Answer 2

If this is totally out of his normal range then I say it is probably a good assumption that it is gang related.. Possibly the robbery could be part of an initiation. The bandanna identifies the gang. Talk with the police regarding the colors for the local gangs and ask them what you as a parent can do to get his life on the right track again...

Answer 3

WOW. My heart goes out to you. I don't have alot of experience with this kind of thing, but as a Mother of three: 19, 10 & 3, I know that if I were faced with these same circumstances, I would know that something is dreadfully wrong and action must be taken immediately. You should probably, first, find someone who is an authority on the subject, perhaps your local police dept, could point you in the right direction. I know at this juncture you're probably thinking that you don't want your child to be in further trouble, but there is alot more at stake than 'trouble'. I wish you luck and an easy resolution to this situation. I'd like to know how things turn out. God Bless. Lisa

Answer 4

Hard core gangs have a culture of blood in blood out. This means that in order to join, a prospective member is jumped on by several gang bangers in order to test his courage, meddle and fighting ability. Blood out means that once accepted, the only out is to die. What your son did was certainly unacceptable social behavior and quite possibly another test by the gang. What other reason could there be other then to give the guns to the gang? It's difficult to be a judgmental if I don't know your social or cultural environment or financial status. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

The pink bandana hanging out of the back pocket is almost a sure sign of membership. Gangs do not just "let you get out". Once in, usually, a member has to kill or be killed to get out of this activity depending on the gang.

Answer 6

He's definitely joined a gaing. An odd gang that would have pink as it's gang sign, but a gang nonetheless.

What you need to do: SEND HIM TO MILLITARY SCHOOL IMMEDIATELY. Don't tell me you can't afford it or anything like that. This is your SON! and he is on a horrible path. The only way to free your son is to get him away from the situation. And you obviously are a single mom (stats show that two parent households RARELY have gangter kids) and you need help.

Start researching military acadamies immediately, and beg for help whereever you can get it. Dr. Phil...Oprah...whomever. You are not going to free your son by yourself. If you don't, you will lose your son to death or prison within a few years....most likely he won't see his 25th bday.

Answer 7

Chances are your son was trying to prove something to somebody, most likely this gang. When "good" kids behave in this way, it's usually because they feel pressure to be rebellious and badass. BTW, why the pink bandana?? LOL I'm sorry to laugh, but pink doesn't seem like a very "ruthless" color. But that is scary that about the guns. I would strongly recommend allowing the police to take part in his punishment.

Answer 8

Sounds like gang activity. Most of them, when caught, will take sole responsibility for a crime to prove their loyalty to their "friends". The best way to get them away from it is to turn them into the police and let them pay the price. Unfortunately, that is also the most painful way to go also. You want your children to be productive members of society, but you don't want to see them hurt in the process. They have these "Boot Camps" for unruly teens that you may want to consider. Although they appear to be cruel, sometimes it takes extreme discipline to correct an individual's behavior.

Answer 9

I am afraid that seems to be the case.I have been affiliated with organizational street gangs most of my life.Your son is not aware of the dangers that lurk,often out of fear teens are pressured to continue a lifestyle such as gang life,because they dont want to disclose any info for fear of retaliation and being labeled a snitch.Now he has a record which will affect his future in a negative way.Yet have no fear Dr.Feelgood is here.If you need help contact me and I can give you my three steps to correction and prevention.Do remember there is a big difference between thugs and gangsters.Im a GANGSTER,MIND, BODY and SOUL and I am for a better society.There is hope for your son,I wish you could send him to my hometown for a day.but you can reach me at [e-mail]

Answer 10

I think you already know the answer to your question. Look it may not be a gang, it could be he is hanging out with a bunch of wannabes and that can be even worse.

the worst comes out in us if we are surrounded by the wrong people. advice: straighten this out NOW before he gets killed. tighten that leash he is only 14 for christs sake.