I'm engaged and I'm not sure if i'm ready to lose that llittle bit of freedom that i have. Or maybe I'm scared of divorce down the road if it does not work. But someone please give me some advice.
2006-07-26 05:45:35 · 14 answers · asked by jaychazus 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you are absolutly positive that you are ready....then don't do it.....Its not fair to your fiance' if you can't be honest. If you go through with it...than your vows will mean nothing. Maybe you both need to discuss exactly what it is you want. What do you expect from each other. If you Love her and Respect her...than tell her the truth. When you know in your heart...that you want to be with this person for the rest of your life...that without her you feel lost..and that she makes you feel whole.....completes you world...then you'll be ready.......Put it on hold.....continue to be together..but try spending a little more time doing things on your own....if you are happier doing things with your friends..than you are when your doing things with her...and you would rather be out than be home...then you need to move on....Dont get married just because you think its the right thing to do......and maybe...just maybe..she has had some of the same thoughts.......Talk.....its the best thing you can do........just be open and honest.....and listen to each other.
2006-07-26 05:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take a deep breath and ask yourself if your fears are well founded or if it is just a kind of paranoia creeping up on you. If you can think of specifics like "I don't want to lose my freedom because Sarah from work is really hot" then there's a chance you're not ready. Same with your doubts. There is always a fear of a marriage not working out but if you are sure almost all of the time, I think it's okay to doubt a little.
Just think of your fiancee and how much you love her. Think about how much you want to be with her forever and how happy she makes you. Then think about how happy you could be without her. Chances are you wouldn't be all that happy if you didn't have her in your life.
Good luck!
2006-07-26 14:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about this very long and hard before you proceed. Think of marriage vows. Do you love this woman with all your heart? Will you be there through thick and thin, in sickness and in health, rich or poor? If you're even thinking about other women in more than just a looking at the menu beauty appreciation thing, then you have to ask yourself if you're really ready to marry. Only you know the answer to this, so figure it out before you're throwing the good china at each other. Good luck.
2006-07-26 12:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get married if you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. If problems arise, you should be confident that you can work them out, or at least you will try. Just follow your heart. If that person means the world to you, you won't care about losing the freedom to date.
2006-07-26 12:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by PiccChick12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might just be scared that a divorce will happen down the road. i just recently got married and i was worried about the same thing and i guess i still am. so it's normal to be worried and scared of what's going to happen. just believe that everthing will turn out good in the end. try talking to your fiance about how you feel. it might make you fell better talking about it.
good luck and congrates.
2006-07-26 12:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by PixiFairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what made you want to marry this girl in the first place. Everyone gets nervous, thats healthy and to be expected. You have to remember though, that you loved this girl enough to ask her to spend the rest of your life with you, and she loved you enough to say yes. Doesn't that make her worth the risk?
2006-07-26 13:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by lauriebug4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somebody is getting cold feet?
dude dont worry about it... if u really love this chick than u shouldf want to marry her, but if you are having second thoughts and dont think u want to commit the rest of your life...
well....theres always divorce, but things can get ugly with divorce
if you;re thinking of divorce before u even get married than maybe consider signing a pre-nup
2006-07-26 12:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by C. D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important is to be honest with yourself and your girl. Just tell here everything you feel, and maybe after that conversation everything become so clear.
Good luck!
2006-07-26 13:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're just getting cold feet. Don't worry about it : ) Just try to put it out of your mind. If you love your fiance, then nothing else really matters.
2006-07-26 12:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by Allison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask for a rain check stay engaged just don't marry yet
2006-07-26 12:47:27 · answer #10 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋