I've messed around before but never had intercourse. The guy I'm currently seeing is a few years older and has asked me twice now if I want to "move to the next level". It can make things uncomfortable because I'm not ready, so I refuse. I don't like the pressure, but he tells me he doesn't mean to pressure me, he's just speaking his mind - which I find admirable. He obviously has more experience and less tangles about sexuality than I do.
Will he think I'm a prude if I explain to him that I want my first time to be in a loving relationship? How might I explain without seeming prudish?
2006-07-26 05:41:47 · 15 answers · asked by wishinghoping24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Explain to him like you did to us. If he thinks bad of you, don't waste your time with him.
2006-07-26 05:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if he thinks you're being prudish - he'll think what he wants anyways. You're uncomfortable with the concept, you're not ready, and that's all you have to explain. If he continues to bring it up, he's not 'just speaking his mind' - he's trying to force the issue. I'd just tell him that when I'm ready, I'll bring it up. Until then, he shouldn't keep asking. If he doesn't respect your wishes, I would dump him, as sex is obviously more important than you are. Good luck, and stick to your guns! Don't be pressured into doing anything you don't want to!
2006-07-26 12:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question girl:
1. you're "not ready"
2. you "don't like the pressure"
3. you "want you first time to be in a loving relationship"
So if you made that point CLEAR to him, and he REALLY care about what you want, he will RESPECT that and WILL NOT consider you prudish (or whatever).
He DO mean to pressure you!!!! So continue defending what you think is right FOR YOU and not right for others.
Thumbs up for you girl!!!
2006-07-26 12:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by Daniela Sylvester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any man that does not respect your wishes is not worth your time. If he thinks that you are a prude then leave him alone and forget about him. Never give up your morals for anyone else because those are the most precious things that you have.
I hope I helped and Good Luck.
2006-07-26 12:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by blue_girl_05us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl.... just really tell him how you feel and that you just wanna wait until your married or at least until you know that you actually love the guy and know that hes the one... it may seem like he isn't pressuring you to him but to you it is.... but if you tell this guy how you really feel and if he really cares for you than it will be no big deal he would understand.. but if he doesn't than Hun he ain't worth your time... your to precious to even be with a guy who just wants sex!!! I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST OF LUCK
2006-07-26 12:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by rosebud16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't respect your feelings, then he isn't for you. You don't want this to be something you would regret forever. My husband was the only one I've had sex with and although we didn't wait until our wedding night, it was about 6 months into our relationship, I think it was one of the best decisions I've ever made. No regrets (along with no STD's, unwanted pregnancy, etc, etc...)
2006-07-26 12:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by jaylenemarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it doesn't seem as though he's pressuring you extensively. Just explain to him that you're not yet ready to have sex, and that if you become ready you'll let him know. If he respects you, he'll respect your decision as well. Good luck!
2006-07-26 12:46:38 · answer #7 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cares about you for more than just a piece, he will understand, I waited almost two years for her to be ready, it seemed like forever, but i made it! Dont give it up till you are ready!!
2006-07-26 12:48:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready, do not do it. You will regret if you do it just because he asked you to. Stick to your decision. If he respects your decision, that means he loves you. But if leaves you just because you are not ready, then he does not love you. he only wants you for sex.
2006-07-26 12:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by Lost Sheep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just say that ur not ready to go that far. tell him its a big choice and if i agree and something goes wrong then i'm pretty much ****** for life. explain that u like him alot and that its a really big step to take.......good luck girl!
2006-07-26 12:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you aren't ready yet, and to stop pressuring you... That you'll tell HIM when YOU are ready...
If he doesn't like that, then he can move on...
Stand your ground and only do this when YOU are ready...
2006-07-26 12:47:31 · answer #11 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋