He's a great guy. The kind of guy my friends would love to meet. I don't want to lose him. The problem is that I was just getting comfortable with the idea of exploring my attraction to other women when I met him. That attraction for women hasn't gone away and I don't know if I'm ready for marriage. He sees marriage in our future. I can see myself married to him, too...or single for the rest of my life. Either way, I'd be fine. I just don't know how to make my same-sex attractions go away. I even have to picture women in my head when we're...you know. Otherwise, I can't umm...you know...finish. What should I do?
2006-07-26 05:27:38 · 9 answers · asked by Been There2 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you feel like you need to continue exploring your attraction for women, you should tell him now before he invests more of his time and feelings into the relationship. It doesn't make a difference whether it is a man or woman, the point is that you are still looking for something outside of the relationship, and this is something he needs to be aware of.
If this helps any, I have been in a similar situation. I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now, but I do have a sexual attraction to women. This is something he knows about, and is okay with, because he knows that I am very happy with him and feel very fulfilled in the relationship department, even though I never got to explore my same-sex feelings. And at this point, I don't feel the need to explore those feelings.
There is no reason why you can't be with him and still be attracted to women.... being in a relationship doesn't stop anyone from having sexual preferences. I still look at women and other men. I doubt anyone in a relationship can TRULY say that they don't think any other person is attractive aside from their significant other. It's just a matter of whether it's acted on or not. I think the problem lies deeper in which you are unsure of your relationship with him and are trying to find an excuse to not move forward.
2006-07-26 06:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by azn girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's truly "Mr. Right" then there shouldn't be a problem discussing this with him, including the need to fantasize when having sex. He should be helping you find Mrs. Right, if he's "the one" for you. You're just gonna have to talk and explore it with him. If he won't, then maybe the relationship not what you thought it was.
2006-07-26 05:34:35 · answer #2 · answered by brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hint around at maybe a threesome...most guys can only dream about them, but if he gets the hint and you two get it together, then he will be happy, you will also be happy because then you are with him and with a woman of your choice.
2006-07-26 05:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by heathergcsu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
completely known to experience that way...do not difficulty, she will arrive and be each and every thing that you needed in a spouse. believe. I didnt discover my Mr actual until eventually i changed into 29. sturdy success to you.
2016-11-26 00:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by brennen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not fair tell him how you feel and whats going on now before its to late he might even help you the skies the limit but be honest with him
2006-07-26 05:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by playful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont no, but i m also bi, so if u want to see a feamle live (in stead of imagine) e-mail me!
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2006-07-26 05:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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UR NASTY U SOUND LIKE A LIL 12 YEAR OLD LESBIAN..
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2006-07-26 06:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him a threesome w/ another women he'll love it.
2006-07-26 05:32:01 · answer #8 · answered by California 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THAT BECAUSE I LIKE GUYS AND I HATE BI'S OR LESBEANS OR GAY PEOPLE!!!
2006-07-26 05:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by isa 92005 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋