My boyfriend recently went to a strip club with his friends and I completely and utterly feel like he cheated on me. Not by physically doing anything with a stripper, but because he was there. Now don't get the wrong impression. I have never cared before when he's went with his friends, they travelled to Halifax, Montreal, etc (and at every stop, went to the strippers), but when he went this time, it was only 15 minutes away from me. It's a hard situation to explain, but we've been together for about 2 years, and he's been completely head over heels for me the whole time. I know this, I'm not being nieve. But when he was younger (and much stupider) he cheated on all his girlfriends, and once it was with a stripper, at which time he made out with her (among other things). He's always very honest with me and even tells me things that he knows are going to piss me off. So how come I feel gross around him now? How come I don't want him to see me naked? (I have a great body, it's not me)
2006-07-26 05:24:44 · 3 answers · asked by boop 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also wanted to know, is it likely he'll cheat on me? I have also cheated on my boyfriends and WILL NOT cheat on him. Like, what's the deal here? Why can't I trust him? I know he's not going to meet anyone better looking, like he's always been a "ladies man" but one of my friends told me he's started a secret account to buy me an engagement ring. With knowing all this stuff, how much he talks about me, we're moving in together, how he treats me (AMAZING), why can't I trust him?
2006-07-26 05:26:31 · update #1
PS. We have a very honest relationship but everytime I think about things he's done, I get so angry with him and then he'll call or stop by and I'm mad at him and can't explain why! AHHH, I'm going crazy!
2006-07-26 05:28:15 · update #2
Maybe its you that's afraid of committing, this is what it reads like to me...He may just be having fun with the boys, heck i wish just one my hubby would go in one, hes a prude. Trust is the most important thing in a marriage and if you two are thinking about it, you need to have this. If it bugs you, tell him that going to strippers makes you feel uncomfortable around him, you may be surprised, he might not go anymore. Communication another extremely important thing in a relationship...
2006-07-26 05:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is the fact that he cheated on a past girlfriend with a stripper that upset you and it may not have bothered you before but something triggered it to bother you now. If he is treating you right then I think that you should try to talk about it to him because maybe you just need to vent about it and then you will be fine. He sounds like a great guy and there aren't many of them out there so make sure you keep him. You may not want him to see you naked right now just because he saw the stripper naked and I think that it is just all in your head. Like I said before just sit him down and vent, I think that's all you need to do and then you will be fine.
I hope I helped and Good Luck.
2006-07-26 05:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by blue_girl_05us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he saving for a ring he really loves you.I think he will get over this strip club faze. Hes probably just trying to get it out now.If it really bothers you threaten to leave him and he will change if he loves you to.But for now hes probably just having fun with his friend like most guys do but your his number one lady so dont worry about it.Dont kill yourself mentally just think of the love you guys have for each other he probably hasnt cheated on you.
2006-07-26 05:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by california kid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋