I went to a bar last night with my boyfriend. He wanted to go home and watch TV, I wanted to stay. He left me there and told me to call him when I wanted to come home. I started having fun and hanging out with some guys that I knew. I ended up leaving with them (5) and went on a boat ride then went back to the one guys house and swam in pool and jacuzzi. I did have bra and undies on and didn't do anything with any of the guys. My boyfriend called my cell phone numerous times but I didn't hear it because it was in my purse which was in the car. He was waiting for me when I got dropped off at my house with my shirt tied around waist and wet hair and intoxicated. I know I should've called him but really was not thinking straight. He was irate and broke up with me (we've dated 4yrs). I really am sorry and didn't mean to hurt him. I know I was wrong and feel terrible. I wish I would've left with him and came home to watch TV. I can't undue whats done but isn't breaking up a little harsh?
2006-07-26 05:18:17 · 14 answers · asked by Stacey B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you had really cared about him, You would have NOT left with 5 guys. I dont care how understanding anyone can be, If the tables were turned and he had left with 5 girls and went on a boat and to a jaccuzzi, and you were at home calling and calling, You'd feel like poop and break up with him. Breaking up is NOT harsh at all! Id dump you too!
2006-07-26 05:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really. it will be good for both of you to take a break and it will last if it's meant to be. Besides for all you know he left you there knowing something would happen. Set the bait for you so he could move on see what he wants right now. Besides if you prefer ed hanging out with five guys in a jacuzzi to going home with your man. Then chances are you were looking for some attention your not getting at home.
2006-07-26 05:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by earthmothermoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both ov u were so wrong ..first of all ur bf was not supposed to leave u alone n da bar n go home n watch TV he doen't know that if a gurl is alone n da bar ,not gonna be alone n da next 1 2 mins? difni'ly if a gurl is alone n da bar ppl take her for fun and i don't know at least would ask her our ...secondly u were wrong 2 that just left with those guyz and that's not a proper way to go to the guys house and swim n pool and have fun ? ur bf doesn't think that u didn't do any thing he thinks ok u slept with them and took a shower and u had hell enough fun ...
2006-07-26 05:25:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad you had a good time on your boat ride with the guys you were with, but it seems that if you are going to be somewhere longer then you intend to be then it would have been wise to call your boyfriend and tell him you might be late before you went out the boat. I am sure you didn't mean to get intoxicated but I am sure your ex-boyfriend was upset and maybe he had his reasons I am sure you had your reasons for going out.
2006-07-26 05:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the word "commitment" mean anything to you?
In a committed relationship one does not go swimming in her undies with five male friends and hope that her boyfriend doesn't think she has been unfaithful.
Move on and learn from this very valuable but painful lesson.
2006-07-26 05:23:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little out of proportion to what you did. Maybe you can patch things up once the dust settles a bit. Good Luck. I have never found fault with a girl that likes to party.
2006-07-26 05:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...Its sad and may be somewhat difficult to sort out but you know love knows to forgive.... just call him and tell him that u wanna meet... i m sure he will come if u pressurise him a little.... then just apologize for what u did.... tell him that u love him a lot and can't see yourself without him... he might scold u for what u did... but try to convince him that u are not gonna repeat that again..... i hope he will come back to u and start the relationship afresh.... he loves u that's y he acted possessively.... don't worry things will be alright soon.....All the best....
2006-07-26 05:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not. You broke the one thing that mattered most... his trust! I would've done the same thing like he did!!!
Just give it some time and try to keep a clean record during your next few days. In other words... try to win his trust back (good luck with that)!!
2006-07-26 05:25:36 · answer #8 · answered by Chino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would've dumped you too. Love does what it does for the sake of the person you love. If you really cared, you would've called him. Honestly, you shouldn't have even gone out with those guys. By the way, however cool they were, they wanted to bang you...everyone one of them. He had an excellent basis for the breakup.
2006-07-26 05:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up sounds a little bit harsh to me. But it sounds like something that could be worked out.
2006-07-26 05:24:39 · answer #10 · answered by Phoenix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋