I was dating this man, and most of the time He is so nice to be around. He opens doors, is romantic, caring, and completely into me. The only problem is that he has a HUGE bad temper, and screams at the top of his lungs. He says nasty things to me, and also is paranoid that I was cheating on him. He also drinks a lot sometimes, and the temper comes out and is not better or worse without alcohol.
If there's so much good about him, would the other bad things be able to be overcome? I stopped seeing him because of the temper, and he says that it shouldn't negate all of the positive things about him.
He wants to continue seeing me, but I don't want to be around someone with a bad temper like that.
Ladies, what would you do?? I fell hard for the sweet, good side of him.
2006-07-26 05:17:47 · 30 answers · asked by tamitones1978 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He needs counseling and has to get help. Something in his past is causing him to be insecure with being in a relationship. Either he has cheated on someone before, and knows how easy it is because he got away with it, or he caught someone cheating on him, and has trust issues. He needs to heal himself before he can maintain a stable relationship. If you go back into a relationship with him, it will start all over again, maybe even worse and could get physical. And don't take it upon yourself to help him because he will interpit that you are trying to change him and take the aggression out on you. If he cares about you, then guidelines need to be set and he needs to see someone about his anger. The alcohol drinking is also not a good sign.
Going back with him is up to you. It also depends on how old he is and what does he do for a living...stress levels.
In my opinion, if you have not dated him for more than a year, don't get involved. "There are always more fish in the sea." Don't invest all your time in something where the odds are against you!
2006-07-26 05:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by iofstorm 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
A heavy drinking bad tempered man who says nasty things, screams at the top of his lungs and is paranoid. A man that good is hard to find. You should probably rush into marriage with him and learn to take a punch.
2006-07-26 05:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by Big Daddy Beer Pants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drinking, a bad temper and accusations do not make a good relationship. Do you treat this "wonderful" man in the way he treats you? If the answer is no, then get out fast. The only thing that will be accomplished if you stay with him is the loss of your self-esteem. If he hasn't been physical towards you yet, and I mean by hitting or pushing, then this will be his next step. He will be very sorry and cry and ask for your forgiveness....then it will happen again, and again, and again. Get out now, you will find someone who will love you and treat you with respect...I know, I did....
2006-07-26 05:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by Jonijf13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but you should keep him as far out of your life as possible. He has a bad temper & you know that, the next thing you know is that he will start abusing you & could really injure you. It doesn't sound like you need that. You need to get out of it now while you still can. Your safety isn't worth it. I wish you the best of luck.
P.S. If he says he has changed , don't listen he will most likely go back to his own ways once he knows he won you back!
2006-07-26 05:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by sftballgrl48328 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is to leave him alone and wait until someone else comes along. I was in the same situation just recently. As a matter of fact me and the other person go to court in a couple of weeks due to his nasty attitude / anger problems. It started off as yelling, jealousy, controlling and ended up in physical, verbal, & emotional abuse. He flattened all 4 of my tires and was very destructive. Basically what I'm trying to tell you is that it's not going to get better but it's going to get worse if you don't get out of that situation. That's the best thing that you can do for yourself & him because it's going to end up in a very ugly situation. Good Luck...
2006-07-26 06:12:45 · answer #5 · answered by China B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No in fact if he has a bad temper now it will only get worse as life gets harder. Life is hard and some people do not know how to react to it. Get out while you can.
2006-07-26 05:21:08 · answer #6 · answered by SunshineSparkles1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend sounds like this....he has an anger problem, he has never hurt me physically but he does get going on the verbal part of it. I totally ignore him. when he goes off, i don't say anything, i just walk away...he continues to piss and moan and yell and scream and on occassion, throw something. But i'm not in the room to deal with it. In about 15-30 minutes he's fine again and back to normal. I love my man to death and he's the sweetest guy i know...wouldn't trade him for the world. I take him as he is....flaws and all...
good luck sister!!!
2006-07-26 05:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by tiffany6322 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is nothing but trouble and the yelling could lead into hitting, it is a common practice among domestic violence cases. Get away from him and if need be get a protection order on him. But definately get out now no matter how nice he might be at times. the real him will come out again
2006-07-26 05:21:44 · answer #8 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should understand that a girl need's her space But that person seems to be bit to far,
I think that he realy Care's for you and wants you to be with him all the time and when thing don't happen that way he gets irritated
If I was in your condition I will give him that last chance and ask him not to say ugly thing like that and if he doest keep his promise JUST DUMP HIM
2006-07-26 05:27:40 · answer #9 · answered by twinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET RID OF HIM! at most times guys with bad tempers will result into abuse. I'm surprised he hasn't physically hurt you yet. Alochol mixed in isn't a good thing either. You can get better.
2006-07-26 05:22:58 · answer #10 · answered by What!? No Way!? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋