We broke up last night and it feels like my heart has been riped out of my body and stomped on. What should I do. He is like my best friend and true love.
2006-07-26 05:05:49 · 27 answers · asked by mandy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He didn't even give me a reason for why we broke up.
2006-07-26 05:09:47 · update #1
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2006-07-26 05:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by D Simon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I've been through this. It sucks b/c when people tell you anything other than to get him back somehow you think they don't understand. But, trust me! It's okay to be openly hurt. You cared, it sucks, and you're dealing with it. Be honest about it, but don't over exaggerate. You're bummed, you wish it didn't happen, you cried,you'd go back out with him. But, for the time being (and for a couple of weeks), avoid talking to him for more than five minutes. Then start letting him be your friend again. Not your #1, only friend, but A FRIEND. Check in with him every few days. What's up? How was ur vacation? Is your mom still crazy? And then get off the phone and go out and do something. You won't feel like it at first, but you'll appreciate it later. Try to be the one that gets off of the phone first, for a legit reason though. Because you'll actually be busy. If it's meant to be, it'll be and if not, you learned so much from it and you still have him as a friend later.
2006-07-26 05:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through went through it myself a few times. I am sure you feel as if you will never find another love no matter how hard you try. You will find another love and he will probably be better than your ex-boyfriend. The best thing you can do is move on, take a break for awhile before you start another relationship. I am sure care a lot about him, but obviously what was once there is no longer. Take this as an experience. Might help in your other relationships.
2006-07-26 05:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i understand how you feel. But i must say, if it is indeed true love and it is meant to be, then you guys will gets back together. Have you ever heard of the saying, "if you love someone and gotta let it go and if it comes back then it means so much more"? In otherwords, dont lose the faith. Time apart for a while can make a person do alottt of thinking and maybe that is what he is doing.
Good Luck n Stay Strong
2006-07-26 05:10:44 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Be Told 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did not tell what caused the break up. but anytime thoughts of him come to mind say to yourself "WE WERE NOT MEANT TO BE" and believe it then you'll get over him soon. but wait any time you feel like crying don't hesitate cry as much as you can it helps too. put yourself together and share your pain with as many people as possible don't keep the pain it kills. try and make yourself busy with other things than sleep or being along, anyway am so sorry it ended. if you really love him give him sometime and believe no matter what happened if he also feels the same you guys we come back again. keep your fingers crossed and hope for the better
2006-07-26 05:14:39 · answer #5 · answered by Prisca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how that feels, I've been cheated on twice. It hurts, really really really bad. I can't tell you, "in _____ weeks you'll feel better" because it doesnt always work like that. Here's what I did to deal with them. I hung out with all my friends and got wired on soda. It didn't make me feel completely better, but it helped.
Also, talk about it to your friends. If you keep it all bottled up like I did, it'll end up worse than before.
And last but not least, if it wasn't a bitter breakup, still try to keep your friendship, although it doesnt seem that way now, sometimes a friendship can be just as good, if not better than a romantic relationship. If it WAS a bitter breakup, try to patch things up and be happy with a friendship. It's better than nothing.
Who knows, maybe you two will get back together someday.
2006-07-26 05:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first thing is to allow yourself to feel what you do.... allow urself to greive and to be angry if needed.... but allow this only for a while..... give urself a goal to reach.... getting over him in say, about a month or so..... then decide and move on... depending on the length of time ya'll have dated, say over a year, if you feel you deserve an answer as to the whys and wherefores, then write him a straight up and forward letter, requesting an answer... keep the letter in line and no threats or accusations or any such thing...... you do NOT want him to have a weapon to use against you, such as stalking !!! after mailing the letter write it down on a calender , marking the date, and then mark another date for a deadline for answer recieved... if he does not answer on or before that deadline, you will know that you were just not worth much to him and you will have your answer by default... that should give you enough push to just move on....... I know it hurts, we have all been there.... so you are not in a club by urself....... keep urself busy and do not allow urself to sulk or go into a depression over this guy..... if he dropped u for no apparent reason he is just not worth ur precious time and effort...... good luck and God bless
2006-07-26 05:19:01 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin, I've been there a couple of times. Its like someone jumped on your stomach with both feet. The feeling will not go away for a long time and you won't be able to quit thinking about ya'lls relationship. It will be running in your head and you cannot stop it. But over time, this will subside. It took me 2yrs and the feelings still come around, but I stop them. I always think though this person may come back, but I wouldn't love them like I used to....been too long. Good luck baby.
dd
2006-07-26 05:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by dd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To have a broken hart is to know that your are a special person, and that you really do have an understanding for love. I feel sorrow for this time you must go through, but I feel happiness to see that you are able to give your hart in whole. do not despair my dear, for any one who could give such a thing in a relationship will only have peace to look forward to. so pick yourself up hold your head high and smile, some where out there is a very lucky person just waiting to meet some one like you!!!!!! Best wishes !!!!!!!!
2006-07-26 05:23:29 · answer #9 · answered by Givingitthought 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ask yourself this........Are you still breathing??? The answer is yes and you will continue to do so. I have been in your shoes and I am sorry that you are going through this. It will get easier I promise. Just remember to take care of yourself and don't let this keep you from loving again......My motto is.........."If life doesn't hurt sometimes.....then you're just not livin' it right." Go do something like getting a new hair cut or go buy something that makes you feel sexy. Jump back in the saddle and don't forget to take chances. Good luck!
2006-07-26 05:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Mandy, I am also a girl and understand ur problem. do one thing, just close ur eyes and seek in ur heart. If u both broke up 4 a serious reason & the fault was his then u should 4get about it. And if its ur fault & u love him then u go to him & try to make him understand. Remember: Love comes only one time & fraud comes every time. Keep ur eyes & ears open and be decicieve.
Because u have to decide ultimately.
Yours about 2 become freind
Nisha
2006-07-26 05:22:40 · answer #11 · answered by ANUTOSH K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋