see ive been dateing this guy and my friend Alexis started liking him and they are in band together and they went on a trip to a drum core and she kissed him what should i do i love him so much.
2006-07-26 04:54:28 · 21 answers · asked by darlingcuttiehottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did she kiss him, or did they kiss? There's a difference - how did your man react?
Just calmly ask your bf what happened, and if you need to worry about her. If he says he loves you, then trust him (assuming she kissed him and he didn't invite it), and both you AND him need to talk to Alexis - tell her to knock it off.
If he kissed her back...or has to think about things...then drop him. Don't play those games - letting him think you will tolerate that behavior will only encourage him. Don't you want a guy to want you, and only you?
Girls have the silliest habit of sticking with guys who go out with other girls...it's like "you're playing with my toy, and it's MINE" Stop competing with your friend, and realize your guy is the jerk here.
2006-07-26 05:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all depends on if he kissed her back. first of all Alexis doesnt sound like much of a friend and if he kissed her back then he isn't much of a boyfriend and doensn't deserve you or your love. how did you find out? did he tell you or did someone else. if you found out from someone other than him then it doesn't appear that you can trust him very much. if she kissed him and he didn't kiss her back and informed her that he was with you then you are ok but if thats not how it went then I'm afraid you don't have much of a relationship. healthy relationships are built on trust and if he hasn't earned that from you then I am afraid you aren't going to work out. I am assuming that you are in school since you mentioned they are in the band. You are very young and still have plenty of time to date others and find someone worthy of you. I know its easy to blame her and not want to put any of the responsibility on him because you love him but he could have said no. I hope for your sake that he did stop her and tell you what happened but chances are it didn't happen that way and you have to be honest with yourself and determine where to go from here. I know it sounds like a huge deal to you now but in the long run this is just one of the things that falls in to the category "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger". Good luck!!
2006-07-26 12:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to sit down and talk to your friend Alexis and let her know how you feel. Let her know that you and you boyfriend were together first and if she wants to be friends with him then that is fine it should be nothing more then that. Tell her you don't appreciate her kissing your boyfriend in a appropriate manner. Violence will not be need and nor is it the answer to your problem.
2006-07-26 12:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet he kissed her back! Too much drama here. Tell your friend to stop flirting with your guy...it's not acceptable from a friend. Next, tell your guy about the situation (I'm sure he knows), but let him know that you love him dearly and are uncomfortable with that situation. If he loves you, he'll do the right thing and avoid that situation.
2006-07-26 12:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number 1 she is not yor friend because if she was she would have known her limits, number 2 he obviously doesn't have the smae feelings for you that you do for him, because if he didn't want that kiss she wouldn't have kissed him. You really need to leave the both of them alone, I know its not what you want to hear, but sometimes the best thing for you is not what you want.
2006-07-26 11:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by Paktown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she really your friend? If my best friend told me that she liked my boy friend I would be surprised but she cant help her feelings. I would not really say much because my best friend Knows better plus my boyfriend do too. If she kissed him I would of smacked her . Yo betta watch out for her. Do your boyfriend knows she like him? What did your boy friend do?
2006-07-26 12:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by sincereshay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can happen to guys too. The thing is your boyfriend should not have let it happen. You should have a talk with him to see if he is really as committed to the relationship as you are.
Be prepared to be hurt. But also be prepared to be loved more. It could go either way. (I don't want a relationship, but am available to talk, if needed).
Good luck.
2006-07-26 12:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by justaskn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did he kissed her back? if he did, he dont love you honey so you need to let go. But in the other hand, if he was the one who told you what she did, you shouldn't worry about it cause it seems like he loves you and he does not pay attention to her so neither should you.
2006-07-26 11:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by sweet lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you have lost a friend and a boyfriend. Move on !!
2006-07-26 12:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to know that this kind of behaviour is not on and she is SPOSE to be ur friend HA !!!!! Friends do not do that to u and niether would a guy that is serious about u !!!
2006-07-26 12:01:41 · answer #10 · answered by nadine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋