my sons father is gone aand has nothing to do with my son. my boyfriend is now taking the role as daddy. even though my 2 1/2 year old son knows who his dad is. what do i do??
2006-07-26 04:51:22 · 17 answers · asked by reba s 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
take it slowly.
My ex left and I am now married to a wonderful man who is like a father to my child.
Don't push either of them to going into a relationship quicker than they want to. Expect tantrums from both of them!
Enjoy watching them bond!
2006-07-26 07:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Dont try and get your wee boy to call him daddy as this will just confuse him,i`m glad you`ve found someone else and it`s giving me hope for the future,anyway your childs father was obviously a complete asshole to walk away and not want to have anything to do with your son,well its his loss and your fiancee`s gain and let your son decide for himself when he`s old enough to understand if he wants to find his dad,at 2 1/2 he will always know your fiancee as being his dad and if when he`s older he does start to call him dad then let him if your ex is still not in the picture,xx
2006-07-27 12:28:17 · answer #2 · answered by onlyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let things go naturally. Don't try and push your son into doing anything that he doesn't want to like hugging and kissing and calling your boyfriend dad or anything like that. It will all come to him when he feels comfortable about it. and if your bf is around all the time and taking that dad role with him, then your son will see that and they will eventually have a father/son relationship.
2006-07-26 05:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by korr1121 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a member of that club. My son was 1 when it happened. Depending on how intelligent your son is, now may be the time to sit down and explain to him what has happened and what is to come. As long as your new guy is willing to take on that role and show your son a lot of love then you guys should be fine. Also keep in mind that his family will need to accept your son and make him feel loved. One more thing let them bond.
2006-07-26 07:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by Keke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is vague. What do you do about what? Do you love your boyfriend? Does your son love your boyfriend? If he does, what is the problem? You live your life and be happy someone is willing to accept a child that isnt theirs. Especially since you say your son knows who his dad is. Just dont ever lie to him. Since your sons father has nothing to do with him, you need to take legal measures to make sure he doesnt try to walk back into his life one day and cause problems. He should pay child support, whether he has anything to do with him or not. If you or your boyfriend dont want to deal with him and dont want his money, think about it this way, it is your sons money. His father has a legal obligation to help support him. Take the child support and put it in a trust fund for your son for his future.
2006-07-26 05:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by tmills883 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to do anything. Hopefully things will fall into place and your son wil have a nice male role model in his life. A 2 1/2 year old doesn't need a lot of explanations!
2006-07-26 04:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't introduce or call fiance "daddy" you can tell your son that his father is busy at the moment & can't be here but fiance is going to help look after you and him & love you both & keep him safe because he is such a special little boy.
Make sure your son knows how special he is and how your fiance could have loved anyone but he loves him because he is a special man and because your son is special too.
2006-07-26 04:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience the best thing you can do is make sure you boyfriend really wants to be a father to your son as much as he wants to be with you. the second thing you can do is make sure your son knows that his biological father cannot ever be "errased" by anyone. If you manage that then you will have been a great mum.
2006-07-26 04:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by duncan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry with the government legislation that is being passed the childs true father will have his passport with held and may even be electronically tagged. There is no such thing as the statement "doesn't have anything to do with his child". You and he created the child and the state will make sure in time that you are both accountable.
As for your current boyfriend, I applaud him - he must be a decent chap
Hope that helped
2006-07-26 04:58:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard one... Ive been through the same thing myself. Unfortunatly I mucked it up and things really did go pear-shaped. I think the thing to do is to makes sure you have pictures of the babys daddy about, speak about the daddy in a nice way, Even if the daddy is a waste of time and space!!
2006-07-26 10:26:57 · answer #10 · answered by beckywecky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your new bf is a real man then just leave them to find their own relationship. Try not to interfere. But do offer advice if hes having a hard time in the future.
If he becomes your sons roll model he'll probably call him whatever he wants in time.
on a personal note, make sure he is the one you want before bring him into your sons life.
2006-07-26 05:02:07 · answer #11 · answered by Rob G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋