and then told me that I cant teach sunday school anymore or work with the kids on Sunday night and Wednesday. He said that I need to be in every serivce. I would have thought he would have been more supportive I was very shocked by what he did. Did I over react?
2006-07-26 04:49:26 · 15 answers · asked by stacyda20 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
What was his reasoning? That sounds ridiculous to me. How is a pregnant woman going to affect the kids and why does he say you have to be in every service? I suggest you find a church that isn't so closed minded.
2006-07-26 04:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he is concerned for your safety,but then again,how rambunctious are the kids in Sunday class? He should have let you know this if that was the case.Then it also depends on other parents as well.IF you are going to be a single parent & he or other parents feel you are setting a bad example for the kids could be the reason to remove you from the class as well,in which case was wrong on his part because he is not God,so he shouldn't judge you.If that is the case,he needs to be removed from the church because a true preacher will not judge you.Anyway,you deserve an explanation for why you were told not to teach class anymore.Ask him,tell him you deserve an explanation.Be Blessed! Monica
2006-07-26 05:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did he do that? Are you married or not? I can't think of any other reason why its such a negative thing that you're pregnant yet it affects your teaching sunday school. Hasn't your pastor heard of discrimination in the work place? Teaching sunday school might be voluntary in your case but all the more that he just can't tell you to stop just because you're pregnant. If he cited health reasons for you that you might strain yourself, maybe it would be understandable. Did he cite health issues? If not, well, he's stupid. And whats with being "in every service" ? Crazy preacher.
2006-07-26 04:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THis sounds stupid. Even if you are pregnant out of wedlock it shouldn't make any difference about you teaching sunday school. ANd then to tell you that you need to be in every service? This doesn't sound like a supportive church. I would seek out other churches and find out what they think on the matter.
2006-07-26 05:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by Kithy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BLA BLA BLA.......weather you are married or not, being pregnant is nothing to be ashamed of or try to hide. It is a beautifull thing. Well, at least BEFORE labor starts. You may change your mind shortly after it does. I would demand an explanation, and if I got one I didn't like, leave that church immediatley. You do not need a building to worship God. You can find another church or just pray on your own. If your interested in a more open and understanding way of life that will give you great peace and happiness, email me.
2006-07-26 06:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by trebobnagrom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you're unmarried and he thinks you might be a poor example for the children? If not, I can't understand why he would do that unless maybe he's worried about you going into labor during Sunday School or around children and scaring the life out of them. It's an odd, odd, thing. I think it's something you just have to accept though.
2006-07-26 04:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by Lex 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your pregnancy have to do with how you can serve in the church?
Does he not want the kids to ask questions about the baby?
Is he concerned about your "morality" in some way? You don't mention it, but if you are going to be a single mom and his outlook is very conservative he may consider that you are going to be a bad influence on the kids.
I don't agree: I think it would be a better message to kids and everyone to show that people are accepted in your church, rather than judged. This may not be a church where you can grow.
2006-07-26 04:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by surlygurl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he explained to you why he decided that? Are you having a difficult pregnacy and maybe he wanted you to not work as much as before because that reason? If not, you really need to ask him for a reasonable explanation! Pregnant women can do that type of work without problem, and you have your rights! I find his behavior very strange.
Take care, and I wish you the best with your baby!
2006-07-26 04:59:56 · answer #8 · answered by Daniela Sylvester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are not married then I feel his actions sound about right. Most Christians are concerned with appearances. Therefore, he wanted to make sure that those representing his church appeared to be of Christ.
See....no one really cares about what it is you are really doing, but if you appear to be a sinner they show you no love.
I hope you are strong and wise enough to determine that you can be strong on your own. The human mind is the most powerful thing on this earth. You don't need the help of the church to stay strong.
2006-07-26 04:56:32 · answer #9 · answered by aslongasitsfunky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u should've know it was gon go down like that,because thats yo pastor and if you was doin all that work in the church u should no better, and they don't need u 2 set a bad example 4 the kids. and in taking your not married!!!!!!!
2006-07-26 04:56:35 · answer #10 · answered by playgurl pooh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋