I told a guy who is interested in me that I am not into casual relationships from the second conversation.?

Question

I informed him that I was not into time wasting and would want more than casual sex. Was this too soon? Would you be turned off?

Answer 1

Yes. I'd be turned off. Because I'm not being given enough time to see if I'd even be interested in something more than a casual relationship with you.

Answer 2

Nope I don't think it was too soon. You have to let a guy know exactly where you're coming from, whether he likes it or not, because then at least he knows and it's up to him to make a decision as to whether he wants something casual, sexual or long-term. Good for you and good luck.

Answer 3

Smartest comment you can make to a guy, keeps you from wasting your time on foolish boys looking to pump and dump, allows real men to step up to the plate and present themseves, and helps avoid a reputation that a real man won't like if he's looking for the mother of his children.

See how SMART good morals and honesty is.

Just watch out for boys that will lie to make you think they are a real man to just get in your panties.

Answer 4

I love your thinking. I wish it was more women like you. Whatever you do. Don't have sex with before marriage. If you have already have, don't do it no more. Even if that mean you do go to his place and he go to yours. It very tempted and you don't want to be force. It nothing wrong with that. He might get turn off, if he don't want to commit to you. If a man respect you he will wait. Sadly, society says this is okay to sleep around before marriage, have a good time. You will be tempted and he might try to tempted you. Don't do this. Stay in school, working, defintely go to church that believe in marriage and discuss this. It to may diseaseses going around. Read Every Woman's Battle by Shannon Ethridge, Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives
by Dr. Laura Schlessinger You don't have to buy it you can get it from the librabry. She also got one from men, couples, etc.
1.Avoiding Mr. Wrong (and What To Do If You Didn't) Ten Men Who Will Ruin Your Life by Stephen Arterburn and Meg J. Rinck,
2.Finding Mr. Right: And How to Know When You Have by Stephen Arterburn and Meg J. Rinck (get both of these books they are excellent) You may have to get the last two books at a bookstore. It cheap and it is worth. You may could pass this on to somebody else.
I do have to mention. It does talk about the Scriptures with practically information. If he don't want you to read this. It is a red flag. I had one guy I used to be with told my neice that was 2 at the time look at her like she trying to be a lawyer. To be bold about, I would let him see you read the book. It the little things that we have to watch for. I not against men. There good and bad of them just like women.
Read these books they are good to read. By reading these books around him. You get his true motive. If he cares about you. Remember this. Anything a man don't have to work for, he will not respect. Don;t be a easy woman. You want a man that will commit to you, marry you, maybe you and him will have children. That the kind I want someday and you to.May God Bless You. If you want to speak to me, I don't mind. It not enough positive role models out there.

Answer 5

Well think of it this way...if he wanted only to bang then forget that...if he wanted more he would gain respect not be turn off by that....

Answer 6

naw it wasnt. that would more or less gain my respect. you cant be used & discarded, you're not a disposable camera or whatever. that's admirable right there. good stuff to tell him like it is

Answer 7

he should not be, you are being honest an straight forward and letting him know where he stands go job :-)