What's wrong with me?

Question

My great grandmother died when I was 7. That was 7 years ago. I didn't cry over her at all. I did cry last night over her. I now miss her so much. Why am I just now crying? I just don't get it. I didn't feel very sad when she died, and now I do. What's happening?

The other reason I feel really bad is because I didn't see her in the hospital before she died. I regret not asking my mom to take me.

Answer 1

yeah, hey yo this is the dude that gave you tre cool's ID. maybe this isn't the best question to ask, but maybe you were young and now you realized what you've missed. once again, sry bout that.

Answer 2

I am sorry for your lost and I do understand how you feel, my mother passed away in 97 and at her funeral I did not cry at all and I was wondering why, I even tried to make myself cry because everyone else was crying and I thought that people would think that I didn't care about her but, now 10 yrs.later I can just hear a song that I use to hear when I was a kid that she use to play and start breaking down.
See the thing is we all grieve in our own time & in our own way, what may seem right to one person is not so for everyone. You are still greiving, and it may take you a few days, weeks, months, or even years. I will not tell you that there is something you can do to stop it or fix it cause sweetie there is nothing that need to be fix, you must go through it, embrace it, feel it and remember her, love her. when you were younger maybe you didn't quite understand your lost at the time but, now you, so don't run from it because it will not just stop and go away, you must go through it to get past it okay?
Love her and remember her, it's okay to cry for your lost.Great Grandma is smiling at you right now, as long as you remember her she will always be here, alive.

Answer 3

You were TOO young 7 years ago to realize what had happened, and now, you are able to better understand the loss of your grandmother. Something just recently happened that made you think of her, and that triggered your response.

Although it's been 7 years, I'm sorry for your loss. It's never easy, (even years later), to get over losing a loved one!!!

Answer 4

Because as a child, it is sometimes easier to deal with loss because you have so many other things in your life that demands your attention (being a child). When you are older you actually understand and come to a realization that you are never going to see that person again. Everyone deals with grief differently. Your grief was just on pause and now your older and understand that have lost someone who you loved and will miss. Give yourself the time you need to grieve for your grandmother and remember she is still with you in spirit. When you want to see her just pick up one of her picture and remember the times you spent together.

Answer 5

a 7 year old doesn't generally have the emotional maturity to understand the permanence of death. Now thay you're growing up, your emotions are more complex...and you have the facilities to deal with the loss of your Grandmother. The good thing is the people who love us never really leave us. Your Grandmother still knows you care.

Answer 6

Nothing is wrong w/ you. At the age of 7 you weren't emotionally mature enough to understand death as much as you do now, & reflecting back today when you understand it better is probably why you feel a great sense of sadness when you think of her. When we're younger it's harder to comprehend death & loss, because we only know the person is gone, but as we get older we think more deeply about what that person meant to us, how things would have been had he/she still been around, etc.

Answer 7

The loss of someone hits you in different ways at different times. This will almost certainly not be the last time you cry over your grandmother. There is nothing wrong with that at all.

Answer 8

Nothing's wrong...you see when she died you were still young and maybe didn't understand much about death so you couldn't quite get it...now that you notice she's missing you do miss her a lot...and that's normal sometimes people cry years after it happened it depends on everybody's inside and their feelings.Don't worry you'll get over it.

Answer 9

u were so young u don't know what is happening going all now with some talks of Ur family u realise that she is died that is problem
02= u heard someone granny heard that she is telling story to his or her grand child so that is problem
03=u heard at any TV channel that Granny r so lovely Hts the problem u r missing Ur grand mother
04=u heard father crying that their mother had been died so then u realise then
05=at some one talking u realise that Ur grand mother had been died
(BEST O LUCK) TO U FOR UR LIFE IF U GOT ANSWER TELL ME PLZ I WANT TO KNOW THAT WHAT HAPPENED TO U OK

Answer 10

Children process grief very differently. When my great grandmother died when I was 6, I thought it was no big deal. But when I got older, I resented not having very many memories of her.

Answer 11

You have finally realized your love for her and you have not done your enough for her or care enough for you. All these opportunities are gone forever and you could no longer do it, therefore you are with regrets and hurts and that makes you cry. I am sure when you cry you will think " I should have....I should..." am I right? So that's why you need to love and care for your love ones when they are alive and not to regret for whatever you have not done for them when you realize that they are gone forever. Always visit your friends and relatives when they are alive as when you attend their funeral they will never ever know you did.