16/m in ldr with my girlfriend. I just checked her myspace acct and she deleted my comment ( I love you baby and don't forget it) from her comments. she has a lot of guys on there that she says are her " guy friends"? Before she told me when I asked her who all those guys were she said they were 'friends' and I was the only one for her. Should I confront her about this or let it go? It is bothering me though. I love this girl so much and I will be heartbroken if she did it because she is cheating on me.
2006-07-26 04:35:53 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Could some nice person talk with me about this thru IM, i feel like I am going to collapse
2006-07-26 04:59:58 · update #1
She's just having fun. Like playing a game. Don't take it personally.
2006-07-26 04:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by Dragon Sword 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is nothing wrong with her having guy friends however if she tried to hide you from them then you may have some valid cause for concern. I know on myspace there is a place where you put your marital status. Does she have "single" or "in a relationship" in that field"? Maybe try sending her another comment telling her you love her and see if she deletes it as well. If they are just her friends then she should have no problem with them knowing that you exist and are her boyfriend. Remember you are both young and if this doesn't work out there will be plenty other women in your life. Chances are at 16 she isn't the one you are meant to be with anyway. Very few people meet at your age and then go on to get married and live happily ever after. Serious, long lasting relationships are built on trust and if you can't trust her then you are doomed to fail anyway. As much as it may hurt now maybe you should think about exploring other options and getting some experience under your belt. You have plenty of time to find your Miss Right.
2006-07-26 04:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you are very worried about her and what could happen if she gets involved with these so called guy friends she tells you she has. Myspace can be a good and bad sight just depends on where you go. If she has deleted your comment then something has to be going on why she do that. If I were you I would ask her about what is going with these so called friends, so you will have a piece of mind. There is a 50/50 chance that she could be cheating on you, but you will find that out when you talk to her.
2006-07-26 04:44:19 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats messed up that she would delete your sincere comment to her. You should ask her why she did it. In the relationship status area, does she have "In a Relationship"? She may not be cheating, some women just love to have that extra attention and if people saw that comment they wouldnt give her as much because she was spoken for. Either way if she truely felt that you were the one for her, she wouldnt have deleted it. Dont sweat it though man. You are both young and still have lots of life experiences to face. This one is not that big.
2006-07-26 04:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by Antoine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, don't freak out yet. Just say that you noticed that she deleted it, and want to know if anything was wrong.
It's possible that she's shy, and doesn't want sweety-emotional stuff out in the open yet - but if that doesn't sound like her, then it's probably not the answer.
It really is generally a very good idea for people at your age group not to get serious about any one person. You'll regret it later on, simply because it doesn't give you the chance to learn broadly about relationships. LDRs are fine, but keep it on a dating level. You'll show more respect for one another and your own maturity.
2006-07-26 04:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by dryta_ld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is suspicious. I think you should confront her about it. Don't be angry or anything, just ask her something like, "Hey, did you see the comment I left you?" And wait for her reaction. Or you could straight out ask, "Why did you delete my comment?"
Another thing you could do would be to try posting an "I love you" comment again and see what happens. If she deletes again I would definitely go with the latter approach ("Why'd you delete my comment?") because if she deletes the same thing twice, it couldn't be an accident.
I wish you luck and hope all goes well with you.
2006-07-26 04:40:40 · answer #6 · answered by Caryssa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her father probably does not show enough love and appreciation to her for who she is....
She is a bottomless pit for male attention. It makes her feel validated and worthy. She would do anything with anyone who blows in her ear and tells her what she wants to hear...
You, my freind, are not doing it for her. Sorry, but the truth hurts sometimes. It is not your job to feed her ego.
She is getting off on making other guys like her, while you are twisting in the wind. You are being strung along.
You need to lose her like a bad habit and find someone who is into YOU, and You alone.
She does not seem too concerned with your feelings, no matter what she says......
Actions speak louder than words. She IS cheating on you by having relationships that do not involve you (such as your shared mutual friends).
You are just there to boost her ego. STOP. Now.
Find someone who has more self-esteem.
2006-07-26 04:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I'd be more than a bit hurt if the girl who said 'you are the only one for me.' deleted the 'I love you' from her myspace account.
At the very least, she doesn't want other people knowing you are her boyfriend. She might not want that label. I'd definitely ask her about it and tell her nicely that it didn't make you feel so great.
2006-07-26 04:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She did it because she did not want to look tied down. If she is not cheating already she is at the very least flirting with them. Too many guy friends is trouble. It is obvious she does not take the relationship as seriously as you do. Confront her about it, but I don't think it will do much good. Sad to say it but youre heading for a breakup.
2006-07-26 04:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by Tunasandwich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I belive that you love her but I do not think you are in love with her. You are only 16 you have so much more to see and do. Some people may tell you that you shouldnot be looking into her account and checking up on her, I will tell you what's done is done and if you are hurting just let it go. Comfront her to see what she says and then just move on. Trust me you will meet new people, especiall since you are young.
2006-07-26 04:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by missy1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would someone delete an "I love you post"?
1 - she's afraid of others seeing it.
2 - she's afraid of others seeing it.
Hahaha...I doubt she's cheating on you...but let's face it...myspace, and places like it online are one big place to feed a person's ego. Guys shower girls with lies and attention, and they eat it up....it's not a surprise a girl might pretend to be single on there.
I'd ask her why....no harm in that. If she's not wanting to be loyal and proud to be your gf....move on...you can't force her to be yours, it will only push her away faster.
2006-07-26 04:40:39 · answer #11 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋