What to do with screaming brats?

Question

i HAVE TWO STEP CHILDREN THAT CRY AND BALL ALL THE TIME. ANY IDEAS? FUN IS OK

you folks are making me laugh keep it up

I am new to this family from what I gather they have been abused by a wacko mother then negelected by babysitters. they don't know any other way of getting attenion; and They don't like to sleep much

these kids are 3 and 5 their mother is in jail. I give them lots of attention I play with them I hold them read to them but they cry about that they don't like that story they don't want this or don't want that. it's as there is no way to make them happy

Answer 1

Put them in the closet. They'll still scream but you won't hear it as well.

Answer 2

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Children are always UNhappy without structure.
They don't need your CONSTANT attention, if you can give them "activities" that keep them too busy to
care to cry and ball from their "boredome".

Movies are fine, but only AFTER they are physically active for a period.

If you would like an hour or so to relax, without having to be in the same room, then FIRST spend 15 minutes or more, supervising them in something ACTIVE.
Take a walk, do jumping games > musical chairs, simom says, hand stands, ...what ever takes physical energy.

Then give them specific times of day for each thing. Plan their day for them, and let them know ahead of time, the plan, they will be more satisfied with the knowlledge of their "schedule"...maybe let them participate in the planning.
Keep them off sugar, it makes them feel antsy.
If they do not do well together at ANY game, or activity, always always always, DIVERSIFY.
Let them know, if you don't get along, we will stop this activity, and move on to ______. (have an option ready).

Children are most comfortable when they KNOW what kind of behavior you EXPECT. Use the REWARD system. If you don't cry today, your afternoon treat will be ____. If you do cry today, your afternoon treat you won't get.

Get to learn what they like the most, and this can be a big part of your reward system.
Don't forget to give hugs as part of rewards. Children need to be touched with approval very much.

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Answer 3

Have you asked them why they cry? Do they miss their other parent? Are they feeling confused or scared? How old are they? That plays a huge part in it. It might not be a bad idea to talk to their pediatrician and maybe get a referral to a good child/family therapist. A couple sessions may help you and them cope with what's going on. Be sympathetic and do things as a family. It *may* be possible that they think you are a fairytale "wicked witch" since all stepparents in fairytales are wicked (we know better, but kids have all sorts of ideas). Find some activity you can all enjoy together that will help you all bond...take a parent/child cooking class or craft class. Hang in there...things will get better with time.

Answer 4

Take them out of the house and to a park or somewhere they can run around and have fun and get tired.
Feed them nutritions snacks.
Keep them away from tv and computer.
Read to them or go to library for summer reading program.
Do art projects at home with paper or playdough or whatever.
Not sure how old these kids are, but the list goes on. They want attention. Give it to them.

Answer 5

Poor thing! children are children they either scream or cry or sleep. Actually you can make them happy by giving them more attention and by playing with them. Talking to them is also fun.

Answer 6

How old are they? If they are under 3 it may be difficult but if they are older. You need to lay down rules, tell them that you are the adult and when you're around they don't need to act like that. Explain to them what are appropriate reasons for crying and that they need to act like children not babies. When they cry make them go into a seperate room, tell them if they are going to cry to go to that room because you dont need to hear it.

Good luck.

Answer 7

I am assuming you are in a relationship at home with their other parent, and he/she has gone to work:

Put them to work with you building a project for their father/mother.
Make it fun.
Nothing like working on something together [as in working for a common goal] to help 'bring you all together'.
They just need to feel pleased and comfortable being in your company ... but it's not going to be easy for you.
You are going to have to work for their love and respect.
When you make the sacrifice for them, they will gradually follow you.
It will take time.
But there is a common bond between you that you can use to your advantage:
It is that you all love your husband/wife.
So build a project around pleasing him: making a "Big jam tart for Dad. I need your help. Please help me build/make this for Dad"

For anything to work, your attitude towards them being “brats” has to change.
You need to sacrifice with and for them to turn your outlook into love.
Remember, children are not easily fooled by facade.
They seek the real thing.

Answer 8

Find out what they like to do. Most kids like to go to the park and play on the equipment. Find one that has a lot to do, take frisbees and soccer balls and let them run themselves out. Also, if your park is not too close to an airport, take kites and let them fly kites. Blow bubbles.

Answer 9

Wuk dem a GT style. Put them under the table in a box!

Answer 10

Why do they cry "ALL THE TIME"? That implies that something is wrong. If not take them to the park and PLAY WITH THEM. If they are tired enough they won't cry.

Answer 11

There is always the old "give them something to cry about" solution. Works wonders.