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Question

I'm 24 and I'm begining to feel like I'm old. I have a beautiful 6 year old daughter and a wonderful husband, which I wouldn't trade for the world. We have our own small business and a house and are pretty well off with money. But, the problem is our friends are always asking us to go out and I'm always like we'll go next time. I'm kinda tired. I feel like I can't realte to any of my friends. How can I get over this? How can I make myself feel better? At times I feel overwhelmed, by all the responsibilities that I have.

My hubby helps as much as he can, but he is always working, too.

Answer 1

24 is awfully young to be feeling old. I am past the "go out and party" stages but still enjoy spending time with friends. Are there any friends that just like coming over and hanging out or do they all have to dress up and go to night clubs all the time? There comes a time when people outgrow the night scene, or at least severly cut down on it. Sounds like you have a nice young family and good incomes, many others would love to have your situation. The "grass is always greener" sounds appropriate here. I know how it is to feel like I am missing out on life when friends ask me out and I pass on it. Now that I am older, a quiet time relaxing at home is ideal. A young daughter and wonderful husband are great treasures. Enjoy what you have, if the others are your true friends they'll still be there for you. As for your responsibilities, it is a trade off. For some, being lonely and with less responsibilities (without a spouse and kids) aren't what they want, either. Making time for yourself is a good idea. See if you could balance things a bit more to relieve the stress.

Answer 2

At 24 you are far from being old physically, but it sounds as though you are simply overwhelmed (and possibly somewhat depressed) mentally. Seek out a therapist or someone with whom you can share your feelings (like a group of other Moms with young children). You don't mention if your friends are also young Moms, but I suspect some are not. Young children can be a drain on their parents, so I think you need to get some emotional support. Also, have a check-up at the doctor just to make sure everything is OK physically.

Answer 3

At your age of 24, I can tell you that you are definitly not old. I think its so important that you make time for just yourself and/or your husband.
Planning an outing or a regular activity once a week or fortnight or once a month is a good idea (movies, dinner, a walk or drive somewhere, getting together with friends, even just a night away)...
You need a bit of R and R once in a while. Its good for you and good for your relationship. Its good for your well being.
All you need now, is a good babysitter.....

Answer 4

start taking vitamin and relax and don't get so overwhelmed. I am a mother of 5 and I am 32 the youngest being twins that are 3. I had to learn that what I don't get done will be there tomorrow waiting. I just take it a min at a time

Answer 5

You must ,and the key word is MUST, take some time out for FUN. Life is not all about working and responsibilities ~~ you have to relax, chill, laugh and have fun.
FORCE YOURSELF to get out of your safety box and do something different ~~ like GO OUTSIDE... it will benefit you and your family if you do...An overwhelmed parent is not a good thing to a child; neither is it healthy for your marriage. Say YES ~~ that's the first step ~~~ AND THEN GO!!!!!!good luck.... ENJOY YOUR LIFE, GIRL!!!(SMILE)...you're going to get old BEFORE your time
~~ and that would be a truly sad sight to see!!

Answer 6

Maybe you have just outgrown your friends. People grow and lives change and it's hard to stay friends with the same people forever because we have different responsibilites and different goals in life. It sounds like you have your hands full as it is. Maybe you should just appreciate all that you do have in life, and dont feel guilty for not going out and partying or whatever. I'm 25 and I cant be bothered going out much anymore either. I dont have much in common with my friends anymore either. They still smoke dope and go out drinking all the time and I'm over all that. I realised that lives just start veering off in different directions, and when it's time to let go, you have to let go.

Answer 7

Congratulations ! You are just growing up and realizing who is who in your life. It seems that your friends just call you to satisfy their own needs. Do what you feel is right. A real friend will understand and give you some room to breath. P.S. 24 and you and your husband own a small business its like honey to a fly,for people who like to use you. good luck.

Answer 8

This may be early signs of minor depression. Or it could be a chemical imbalance. My wife had problems with her thyroid after our kids were born and she began to just feel tired all the time. The doctor put her on some thyroid medicine and she feels 100% better.

Answer 9

well my girl is 18 we have 2 kids and i take her out every week cause you need to escape some times or you will lose all your abilities to have fun we dont go out often eny more cause well 2 kids house work i work full time welding shes going back to school in sept.
we have like no friends enymone i remember id walk down like 3 bocks and see over 50 people i knew now i just stay away its sad but true im a family man now but i like it so i dont need to change maybe you need to realize the same thing or maybe your flotting in a different boat.

Answer 10

Its funny I am in the same position as you. I just moved down to Florida from jersey and have a 3yr old daughter, another due in November, and a wonderful wife. And the same thing happens to me all the time. Believe it or not when your married your in a different class than when your single and going out. You have to know time management. essential key in your married life and life itself. You have to know how to manage time just like i hope you know how to manage your money. Do you ever say well i don't have time to manage my checkbook or see how much money I really have in the bank? No we all make time for that so we have to make time for everything else in our life.Two things that we do to help aleve the situation is as follows and again this is what we do so it might sound boring to you but it works for us. 1. We try to socialize with other married couples in order to gain friendship and than eventually spend time with one another.(your wife,husband will most likely let you hang out with another couple than just one of your single Friends? And we spend alot of time at Barnes and noble picking up books and spending time together reading. That's what we do Let me know if this helps.