my babys daddy is 45 im 17 and well be broke up about a year ago and he dosent call his son. my baby looks like his twin and he reminds me of his dad (sometimes) so normally when that happens what would my life be with him this very moment!!! i met him when i was 12 and he was 40 i was selfish and ignorant back then untill i turned 15 which i gave birth to my baby boy. i used to lie to him and cheat ( before pregnancy) but my mother kept tearing us apart now im without him and thinking of calling to get back with him (he was never mean to me on the contrary he was like the father that never tought me or showed me what a young lady should behave like!!!!!!!! should i call please hepl!!!!! i need advice....
2006-07-26 04:11:00 · 5 answers · asked by luby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be true to yourself and think about your child. i think if it'll make things better then go for it. it would be great cuz then u g uys could be the family that u probably are. just before u make your decision think about it before picking up that phone.
2006-07-26 04:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by Pisces chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, I'm sorry I have to say this, but I think that you are better without him. Even though he's your baby's father, I think that it's better if you find smb your age. You are far too young yet. If he walked away from you he understood that you two could not have a good future together even though you have a child.
I may be harsh but you have done too many mistakes by being immature, so now GROW UP. Don't call him! You are too young for him, after a couple of years you will be a nice young lady, while he will be an old man and you will be attracted by younger more handsome guys and will cheat on him and will divorce him, and you both will suffer again. So, forget about him and find a new TRUE love. Don't be immature this time. Think it well before you act.
If he calls you because he wants to see his child (he has all the right to) let him see his child and respect him as the father of your baby, but that's it!
Wish you the best of luck!
2006-07-26 11:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by atrabel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem to be blaming everyone but him in this whole mess. you were 12 and he was 40. he's lucky i'm not your mother because he would have been in jail a long time ago. he should have known better. you say you were selfish and ignorant back then (only 5 years ago). but you were 12 and you were behaving exactly how 12 year olds are supposed to act. don't be mad at your mother for "tearing you apart". that is what she was supposed to do and she should have sent him to jail so he's lucky she didn't. call him for the sake of your son. your son needs a father. if you haven't filed for child support, you need to do that as well. at least if he's not going to see his son he could take care of him financially. you did not make this baby by yourself and you shouldn't have to take care of him by yourself. as far as you getting back with him, i think you should leave him alone. you need to take some time for yourself to get to know yourself and to figure out what you really want out of life. if you don't give yourself the chance to so that now you will be 40 and still trying to figure it out. one more thing, you broke up a year ago and he hasn't called or anything? DO YOU REALLY THINK HE'S GONE ALL THIS TIME WITHOUT ANOTHER GIRFRIEND? he's moved on to the next one. don't waste any more time trying to get him back. you are a mother now and everything you do affects him so you need to keep that in mind with all of the decisions you make. good luck.
2006-07-26 11:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT CALL HIM.
This guy is a pedophile if you were involved with him when you were 12 and he was 40 he is a sicko.
Be glad that he doesn't call... move on with your life and focus on bringing up your child, school and career opportunities.
2006-07-26 11:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only advice anyone can give is to just do what is best for you and your son. That is all a person can do.
2006-07-26 11:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋