what can i do if im startin to become bitter about my life and what ive gone through and resentfull?

Question

resentfull about having to live around the common muck that surrounds me? and having no way to escape it right now. knowing that its my environment and the system and people which affected me so i developed mental health problems. the antisocial area of where i live right now full of intimidating youths, that act loud and intimidating and aggressive. i feel the desire to escape all this but i know that i cant at the moment, it takes time to move, plus i rely on my mental health team for support. but i feel bitter and angry knowing that i live around the trash that probally caused my mental health problems. when you grow up through the system people have an affect on you. im 29 now but i went through alot of high schools because i was bullied. and this probally contributed to my mental health. i know where i want and where im trying to get, quiet peacefull surroundings, go in my own direction, but i dont no how im gonna get there?

Answer 1

Many bullies experience a hard family life, possibly abusive fathers, that cause them to lash out on other kids. They are not feeling any love at home and think they are unwanted and become angry and resentful, taking it out on others. I know it isn't easy but do not take it personally, bullying is a stage of life and many of these kids grow up and regret what they had done. The worst thing you could do is retaliate with violence like school or workplace shootings which could affect innocent people. This could seriously screw your life up, which is still worth living. I was picked on in school too, nothing really major, so I know how it felt at that end. Funny because when I started lifting weights and got noticeably bigger after my school days I saw a few of the same troublemakers and they were real nice to me. Either they were impressed at my size or they were out of the bullying stage, or a combination of both. I know what you mean by quiet peaceful surroundings, I just had a roommate kicked out because he was having wild parties. I absolutely hate lots of noise and loud aggresive behavior. It sounds like patience will play a key roll in changing your situation. Think of ways you can avoid the aggresiveness around you. If you really need to move into a more peaceful area, take steps and plan it out. Write it down if you have to. Make a goal on how to improve your current situation. Save up and get out of there, it doesn't sound like a lot of fun right now but keep in mind that you can and will someday change your situation for the better.

Answer 2

take things one day at a time. Don't dwell on the past - it's already done. You can only control the present and work towards your future. Make sure you have some small daily goals and when you achieve them - be sure to recognize that you accomplished it. If you don't get to it, don't beat yourself up about it - just vow to get back on track the next day.
try to keep busy and don't consider movies, tv or mjsic any sort of reality. TV and movie lives and loves are nothing like real life. Since you seem depressed lay off the soap operas, dramas, country or depressing music, even the "drama" or reality tv shows is harmful for you.
Talk to someone. Join a Yahoo group which will give you an additional outlet.
Take care of yourself, eat well, try to do a little exercise everyday, clean a drawer that you've been meaning to do. Take it easy but one step at a time.

Good luck to you.

Answer 3

What's always helped me is philosophy. The problem isn't the world around you, but the world within you -- perhaps cliche, but its all a matter of perspective. Find inner-peace (not that I'm claiming that I have!) and you'll start to view your life in an entirely different light.

You might start with the basics like Plato and Aristotle, or you can read some more modern influences like Kant or Sarte. I prefer eastern philosophies like Buddhism, Tao and Confucianism myself, but read a little bit of each and see what strikes a chord.

Don't expect enlightenment overnight, though.

Humans need outside influences to invoke change. Learn something new everyday.

Answer 4

If you live around trash, you are also trash. Why don't you grow up and smell the trash. Your environment is how you perceive it. Life is only as good as you see it and receive it. Your problem is that you rely on other people to hold your hand on the road of life. Make up your own mind, don't let other people tell you that you have a mental problem. You know that already. So you need to fix it. So don't listen to me! Like you are doing already. Listen to your heart.

Answer 5

First thing; I can relate with you.
There are many obnoxious, stupid and violent people out there.

I went through the same thing some time ago. Always looking over my shoulder for someone trying to mess with me.

Your way to peace and serenity will require some work for you but it will be well worth it.

Jesus never promised us wealth or power - but He did promise us peace. Trust in Him. Talk to Him. Trust Him. See what happens.
Take Care.

Answer 6

I can relate. I had a troubled childhood and carried alot of anxieties and insecurities with me into adulthood. You may not want to hear this right now but when I found my faith in God, it changed me instantly and forever. I know you might think this is nuts because thats how I used to think. Find a quiet place, relax and talk to God. Even if you don't believe it at all right now, try it!

Answer 7

goodness, you sound very judgemental of others.....you might try applying some of that judgement to yourself. We are each of us solely responsible for how we feel and what we think. No one else is responsible for the state of your mental health, only you. Therapists and medications can help you sort thru why you choose to feel as you do, but it is your choice. If you don't like feeling as you do, then you, and only you can change those feelings. You need to change the way you choose to react to what is happening around you. None of us has any control over what others may or may not do, but all of us have all control over how we choose to react. Make a conscious decision to be happy, and nothing and no one can make you unhappy. Trust me, moving is not going to help you. Take responsibility for your own feelings and reactions and choose to control them, stop trying to control the environment, or the actions of others, you can't.

Answer 8

Your mental health issues, like mine, cause you to be focussed on yourself. You have talked about what causes YOU to be unhappy and how YOU want to go in YOUR direction, etc.

Happiness is not found by trying to fill your happiness tank up. That's the path of permanent insanity and chronic malcontentedness.

Look at how you can volunteer for organizations to help those angry (fearful) youth. Counsel THEM. Work with them to help them find jobs, peace and serenity. Somewhere in the midst of all that, you will forget about your poor little problems.

My experience has confirmed this over and over and over and over and over and over. Find someone less fortunate than you and focus on helping them. Then that feeling of resentment, isolation and uselessness will disappear.

Good luck!

Answer 9

Try to realise that there are people out there who have it a lot worse than you do. Find some way to give back to your community, it sounds like it need a lot of help. The funny thing about happiness, is that we find it by giving it!!


Much Love!!

Answer 10

i suggest to become a Jehovah's witness...and you will be a happier and better and sweet person....and you will be having the opportunity to live forever on earth when Jehovah destroys all these wicked system of things that surround us....get in touch with a Jehovah witness or email me at [e-mail] for a bible study and comfort...