my girlfriend and i broke up after 5 yrs. and we are still living together but our lease is up in 1 month. I want so bad to be be with her, but she says that cant happen right now, and that she needs space and time on her own. Do you think that her not seeing me everyday when we move out will make her realize what she had and make her want me back? I'm willing to do whatever it takes to get her back in the future, but i dont want to do anything to screw that up...What should i do to make her want me back, or to make her see a potential future with me? I love her very much, and she still tells me she loves me too.
2006-07-26 03:50:56 · 18 answers · asked by t2006s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow hard... i must say but the question is this.... sure she says she still loves you, but is she still "IN LOVE" with you. There is a huge difference. Because you can always love someone because the way they touched your life, but that doesn't mean you'll always want them. Now if she is still giving the same vibes that she did when things were good, she's not ready to let go ither, she just feels unsure right now. Give it time, let her see other people and the same for you. Even if you wish it was her, just spend time with other people, and when she realizes you were the best thing to happen to her, she'll miss you and possibly want to give it another shot. Be patient though, and don't pressure her or rush anything cause that's just annoying and will push her away even more. Sit back, take a deep breath, and just let time do the work! Good luck!
2006-07-26 03:56:54 · answer #1 · answered by Brittney M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I've been there before man. Do EXACTLY what she says if you still want to be w/ her. Give her the space she is asking for. She probably just needs time to reset in her head, everyone does at some point in time. It's going to be very difficult to give her the spaces she wants, but please do it. She isn't leaving you, she is taking a mental health break, she'll be back. You have human psychology on your side, "the last person you break up w/, is the person you are most likely to hook up w/ next."
2006-07-26 10:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by Migity696 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I'd find a place to live, try to be more laid back about it. When she says she needs space - it is probably because she is done with you. (I am sorry to say). If you ever want to get her back, you must give her that space and not cling to her - that will make her get away from you even more.
What you can do though, is to say that you love her so badly, and that you will wait for her - say 6 months for instance.
If she needs to find out whethter grass is greener on other side... she'd have figured it out by then, don't you think?
Good luck
2006-07-26 10:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not make some one be with you if they dont want so the best thing for you to do is, let her have her space as hard as it may be for you, cuz if you are there every time she turns around she will be content. so yes, if there is something there in her heart she will miss you.distance usually makes the heart grow fonder.and if she doesnt come back better to have loved then never loved at all! doesnt sound good but if you hold onto something that may never be you will never be happy.im sure she will come around and notice who loves her! cheers and keep your head up!you have to be strong, women love that in a guy too!
2006-07-26 10:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line...you can't make someone want to be with you. Let her know that you are still interested in a relationship (which it sounds like you have already done) and then let it be for a while. You never know what will happen, she may come back, she may not, you may meet someone even more spectacular, you may not. Ask yourself if you really want to spend forever with someone that you had to convince and plead to stay with you...do you want to be holding up your relationship forever? You deserve someone who will want and need you the same way that you want and need them. Good luck with everything.
2006-07-26 10:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, honestly, if you love someone you want to be with them.
She may not like living with you with no committment. What have you offered? Marriage?
Perhaps she wants to prove she can make it on her own.
Maybe she wants distance to assess her true feelings without you being right there and available. Perhaps your relationship has been convenient and stable, but not very exciting.
There are too many variables here.
All I've learned is that if someone is trying to get OUT, they don't want to be IN.
And saying I love you means nothing.
2006-07-26 10:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by DD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space. It really depends on why you broke up in the first place. Some things are non-fixable. Either way, give her time. Either she will change her mind and try to start over or you will feel better about the situation. Give yourself time too.
2006-07-26 10:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing. Do exactly as she asked and give her space. If you want her back then you will need to be patient. She may realise she misses you and comes back to you but if you keep pushing her to get back with you then she will get angry and then you've blown it.
2006-07-26 10:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm kinda going through the same thing right now.. but i would say that once u move out, break off all contact w/ her, it might suck for awhile, but it might get her thinking.......try it, and if it doesnt work, who knows u might meet someone else along the journey.
good luck!
2006-07-26 11:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by bmack123086 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is so hard because this is your time to grow. when the time is right and if it is meant to be she will come back to you. or maybe you will find someone else in this time apart that will open another door to your heart.
2006-07-26 10:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by missdessie06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋