We have the typical yours(5), mine(3) & ours(2). Only 2 of his children from one of his previous relationships live with us, which makes it 7 kids at home (16, 10,10,9,6,3,1). I suspect that I am preg. again. I mentioned it to my sis and she gasped and said" are you having it?!". I felt kinda bad. I know the rest of my fam (mom espec) will feel the same. They think we have too many already. Should I even make that matter to me? I feel as though, why should I limit myself because my husband used bad judgement in his past? It's not like I'm a single mother either. We can afford it. Should I let this bother me like this?
2006-07-26 03:14:20 · 20 answers · asked by kttrusty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To Daljack, No I do not consider the children "bad judgements", I was referring to his relationships with the mothers.
2006-07-26 03:30:56 · update #1
If you can afford it and you can cope with the added emotional strain of having another young child to look after, then why not?
I'm one of 7 from a blended marriage (I was the oldest one of the youngest lot) and thought it was great.
2006-07-26 03:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by Snippet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the ideas and philosophies of the world today bother you in the least, Sweetheart.
You go right ahead and do what God would want you to do.
His very first words for man to become successful were:
"Be fruitful, Multiply..."
The scriptures say the Lord wants you to have "a quiver of children".
I have 7 [2 wives]
My brother has 7 [1 wife].
If it wasn't that my 2nd wife obviously had a very tough time with it all, we both would have wished more.
If you are fortunate enough to manage all that, Good luck to you; they will be the joy of you both.
As they say, "The more the merrier!"
I found, too, that the older ones really do like to help you and certainly give the babies the attention they need.
So unlike people think, others are there to take the load off you when you have a large family.
Do what you both think is Good, and God will bless you.
2006-07-26 10:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by dr c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is none of their business.
If you can afford he child, have the child. Even if you can't really afford the child, have the child! There is usually a way to manage, just take things one day at a time! I am sure you have all the baby things you need and lot of hand me downs....you will make it.
You sister was way out of line with that comment; I hope you don't give it a second thought!
I was such a hormonal mess when I was first pregnant with my kids, I would have punched my sister in the mouth if she would have said that to me! LOL
NO---I am not a violent person...I was just "hormonally challenged" for few months.
2006-07-26 10:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the amout of your children is between you and your husband. Wether you want one or 15 it is not societys decision. We have 5 children and people flip over that. We take care of all of them too without assistance and people wonder how we do it. It is called priorities. We still have fun as a family and enjoy doing more family things. Big families are wonderful. I can't wait until they are older with families of their own. Can you imagine the get togethers for that. Also on my deathbed I am going to surrounded with love and family. You will have the same. Children are a blessing and you are blessed!
2006-07-26 10:23:54 · answer #4 · answered by dutchfam7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no you shouldn't let it bother you. If you're excited over it then I say what the heck, go for it. I wanted a HUGE family when I was younger now it's onlly me and my girls but I have a big family other than that. Don't get too excited until you find out for sure if you are yet or not then you won't have to listen to the rest of your family complaining about it. I don't see why it should matter to them it's your family as long as you and your husband are all for it then congrats =)
2006-07-26 10:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by christina s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family is insensitive and callous. Your sister repulses me. Large families are the best blessing you can have. I only have 5 children and people don't understand how great that is.
They should be excited to have another wonderful addition to the family and if they are not, they should at least allow you to live your life they way you want to.
The worse part is it sounds like they are actually getting to you. They are the ones with the problem.
2006-07-26 10:22:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not!!!! You have that baby! This is YOUR family we're taking about here.....It's really none of their business if you have 8 kids or 24 kids..if thats what you and your husband want then thats what it'll be! Besides that...would you really want to abort a baby just because you already have some kids???? I sure hope not! Good luck with everything....remember there are people out there who would LOVE to be in your position...you have so many people in YOUR house that you love and that love you unconditionally! YOU"RE LUCKY!
2006-07-26 10:22:12 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I hope you don't consider your husband's other children "his bad judgment".
If you and your husband have a strong marriage and you can financially afford more children it's no body's business and you shouldn't give any explanations to anybody.
I personally think children need so much attention that the more you have the less individual attention each child gets, but that's just me.
2006-07-26 10:21:37 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there I just want to say that you seem like you have a good head on your shoulders and you really love your children all of them and you can afford it so I would not let anyone up set you.God Bless keep us posted..
2006-07-26 10:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by kutiepye28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you guys can afford to take care of all of those kids then who cares what others think. you have to decide what is best for you. I am more than sure that they will love this child no less than they do the others. You can't let what others think dictate you life even if it is your loved ones.
2006-07-26 10:57:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋