Been seeing this guy once or twice a week for last two months but am totally confused as he never really calls we just communicate by text.He goes for days and texts like mad and then others you dont hear from him in days.he has been away for vacation for last few weeks and had been in constant contact my email but now i think he is back and i havent heard from him.Do u think i should make the first move?my instinct is no.I think i may have scared him as while he was away i told him i liked it.May be he has issues?Totally head wrecking.
2006-07-26 03:04:38 · 18 answers · asked by daisychain 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The bit i falied to mention is 'when i tell him that i like him which is only once,he changes the subject or has never once said he 'likes me'
2006-07-26 05:12:35 · update #1
He is not and never has been married!!
2006-07-26 06:36:33 · update #2
It doesn't sound like he's interested.... of course you can contact him, but if he doesn't respond or seem very keen, then move on.
2006-07-26 03:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by Violent and bored 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does have issues. You need to explain to him how you see the situation and what you're feelings are. Tell him what he can do to make you feel happier. If he doesn't want to listen, gets annoyed or is unwilling to help make you feel happier then he's a jerk who you really don't want to be with anyway.
I hate to say it but guys who only communicate through text and email and go away for long periods of time are usually either cheats or in the forces. If he doesn't have a job that takes him away from home a lot I'd be wondering at this point. I mean WHY doesn't he want to call and hear the sound of his sweetheart's voice whispering in his ear??
After two months he really shouldn't be getting scared by an 'I like.....' comment.
2006-07-26 10:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by poppyfields 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think not hearing from him for `days', is not abnormal!
That's called having personal space.. I know, because I used to crowd my x endlessly. You learn from your mistakes. As it was, it turned out his behaviour further down the line, in to the relationship, wasn't good enough for me! Weird, how things can change. I left him and he asked me to marry him.. You've only just met - things take time to develop and it takes time for people t find their feet.
He might be scared by your honesty, not because of what you said but because he's heard the very same comment said in a totally different context.
Give it chance. You've been dating two months!!
Did it occur to you that maybe he thought you were okay with it all and he is detecting, what now seems like, panic from you that he is not interested? Maybe he just wants to see that you trust him! ..That you can let go and live your own life - that way you have something much more to share. It sounds like maybe you need to focus on liking yourself and enjoying doing things that don't revolve around being preoccupied with what he is thinking and whether he is thinking about you. (Absence makes the heart grow fonder & attraction grows for men, when they feel you have your own life and aren't all needy with them)
It could also be that he's been badly hurt and just needs to feel he's got the freedom to be himself and not have you flip out on him the second he takes a 3-day breather!
A few days is not the end of the world. My ex was a freelancer and worked away for months - how does that compare?
Take care and good vibes.
2006-07-26 10:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to yu rinstinct. A lot of guys have issues just like women suprisingly. i guess let it flow and keep yourself preoccupied. You could mentio that you would like to see him, but dont dwell on it. Then dont text him for a min........... You opened up the door, give him the chance to be a man and make the 1st move
2006-07-26 10:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by she 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip!.. if you've had roughly 12 dates with the guy and still he hasn't tried anything.. he's maybe gay or mixed up in the sexual dept' .. and that's a big issue maybe the texting is easier for him to communicate to you than words up front.
2006-08-02 18:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by richiesown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but i reckon he's playing away. Grasp the nettle and ask him or, if you want to be more subtle, tell him that you'd like to go on holiday with him and then watch him squirm for an excuse as to why he can't.
2006-07-26 11:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by Grizzly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is too scared to ask you! he probably doesnt want to be embarrassed just incase you say no... there isnt nothing wrong with a girl asking a guy out so why not bite the bullet and ask him.... go for it if u want something to happen!!!
2006-07-26 10:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by progolfer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him,he is too indecisive,blowing hot and cold all the time is no good and you should tell him so. and you should never ever make the first move my girl.
2006-08-03 10:13:17 · answer #8 · answered by jean c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he could be shy, but personally ive never ever run after a man,, if he cares he will make sure that you ,
dont slip out of his grasp,. if he doesnt make an effort forget him...
2006-08-03 03:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by madmarie666@btinternet.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and ask him out, nothing wrong with girl asking a guy out. Until you try you'll never know.
2006-07-26 10:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋