People at my school run away from me alot, thinking that autism is contagious, and when I tell the teacher, they say that they didn't do such thing. What should I do? Also, there have been many people who bully me because I drum alot on the bus, even when I've won first prize in three talent shows. They say I should go to a mental asylum. What do you think I should do?
2006-07-26 02:56:32 · 5 answers · asked by Maninblack 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You don't belong in a mental asylum and it's real mean of people to bully you and treat you the way they do.
You are not the only one that has to go through all this there are more children and grown ups who have to go through it also like my son Jaymie. He's 13 years old and also autistic.
I have found out through the years that a lot of people are afraid of things they don't know about and it makes them feel uncomfortable and it makes them act stupid, shallow and ignorant having no idea how much their attitude and behaviour hurts those who they shut out and treat badly. It's their ignorance that makes them behave the way they do and they are to blind and to deaf to see and hear that you are a beautiful, unique person who deserves to be treated with the same freindliness and respect like everybody else. They are stupid to think that autism is contagious because it's not. They have nothing to worry about that and if they really want to know there are lots of ways to find out about it. I chose to talk to about what was happening to my son with the parents of the children who were givng him trouble and I have explained to them that he autistic and after I had explained to them what autism is, I told them what it means for him in day to day life.There were parents that opened up and were very happy that I told them what was going on and they have explained it to their children. It has made a difference in some cases but not in all. Maybe one of your parents can go and talk to some of the parents of the children that are bullying and hurting you and explain to what it does to you and how lonely and sad it makes you feel. Maybe they can also talk to your teacher about what is happening and maybe together with your parents the teacher can make a plan in how to explain to the children about autism, what it is and what it means in day to day life and how sad and painful it is when someone who is autistic is being shut out and treated badly for something he or she can't help.
Don't ever forget that you are just as beautiful and unique as others are and you deserve to be treated with the same respect.
I will be thinking of you and I wish you all the best.
By the way it's great that you have won first prize int three talents shows I hope there will be many more to come.
2006-07-26 03:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by aysha 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them! I think it's great that you've used what some people would consider a disability and turned it into a prize-winning talent. The people that don't get that belong in a mental asylum! If the bullying gets really bad, report it to your principal or a teacher you trust. Also, maybe the school could have some kind of assembly or class to explain about autism so the kids will understand a little better. Some kids will just be mean, no matter what, but some people might gain a greater understanding of what it means to live in your world. Hang in there and be strong (and keep drumming)!
2006-07-26 03:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by Karen J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People - especially in school - can be really mean sometimes. We can't change others, only learn to live with them. At some point of time or the other you will come across these foolish, irritating, hurtful people - you must just remember that it takes all types to make a world - -and it doesnt mean they are right. Just know that there are others who DO understand - and Im sure you will come across the latter type too.
Autism is not contagious people with it may bew unusually gifted -- as you seem to be. You dont need to go to a mental asylum -- but maybe those kids who tell u to should.. Look, educat them a bit about autism - read up on the net.. and if they dont listen, ignore them.. Im sure you can find better friends..
As for drumming in the bus, no matter how good you are, continuous doses of anything can be irritating to some - why don't u practice at home instead? Everyone has their own preferences -- for example, Cher is a multi-million dollar earning singer with many albums out and millions of fans, but I just cant stand her music. Don't expect everyone to love you -- life is harsh.. wake up to reality. No matter what you do, some people will always find fault.. learn to acceopt it and move on as a stronger person, being able to deal with any and every situation you may come across. Find people who accept you as you are and care for you... dont insist on hanging with people who dont deserve your company. Smile! :-)
2006-07-26 03:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jest21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you spoken to your parents, teacher or school mentor or another senior such as a doctor that you respect? Don't bottle things up and become a victim, bullies are always jealous and maybe they envy the fact that you can drum, why not try and show them how to drum, I suppose the answer is that you have to be bigger than them.
Steve
2006-07-26 03:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently heard about a program called "circle of friends". Ask your parents or teachers to start the program. It does not cost anything.
Also Check out RDI at http://www.rdiconnect.com/
they have a lot of great strategies for improving your ability to socialise.
2006-07-26 17:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by unicorn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋